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Well.... where do i start! It must have been november time when i first started chatting to this lad on MSN, we used to speak nearly every day, and we have so much in common! His such a lovely guy, and although we've never met kinda have some kind of connection, as cheesy as that sounds! He keeps asking to meet up with me, only thing is there is like 2 hours drive when his at home, whereas when his at uni, theres like 40 minutes, i like him alot, but scared that things could be a disaster!! What would you do, would you meet him?? HELP
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Try it, see how it goes, least you'll know how you feel once you're in the position to make a better decision, innit.
Don't forget your safety though! Get him to come up and see you, rather than you going to see him. You'll be safer if you're somewhere you know well, and if he does turn out to be not quite what you expect, you won't be stuck in an unfamiliar place.
I also agree with taking a mate or two. They can just hang around at a distance thouh, they don't have to be sitting next to you, so you can have a bit of privacy!
also, dont let your expectations get too too high. sounds like you have something fantastic with this guy online at the moment and there's nothing to say it wont be fantastic in real life too but just be prepared that it might also be a bit awkward and weird at first, dont go along expecting heaven and be disappointed, go along with an open mind and see what happens, then you might be pleasantly surprised with how well it goes
good luck and have fun!
:yes: Many people on TheSite can vouch for the fact that meeting people that you have got to know online can be a great experience. However, there is a list of do's and don'ts that you should be aware of. Take a look at our article on this here and another on Meeting offline
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go for it
but thats different for me, im old enough to handle my own situations.
can understand the differences if you are young etc...
but good luck! you should be fine if you feel you know him well enough to make that next step!
i think meeting in a public space is best idea, just incase.
i'd suggest meeting somewhere in public and make sure someone knows where you're going. my ex came into my work to see me first and then i met him after he'd finished playing football so there were lots of people around but i kinda figured he wasn't a weirdo anyway but you never know.
good luck.
But yeah, be sensible about it. If you turn up there and he turns out to be some 40 year old pervert with a leer and dodgy teeth, then do yourself a favour and don't go back to his place with him like some stupid idiots do, and then blame the internet when it all goes pear-shaped.
Before we met though, I had recieved, texts, emails, letters, parcels, telephone calls from her, spoken with her family, and she with mine. So we already knew each other very well before we met. When we did, it seemed so normal, like we had been seeing each other all along, which is lovely. She came to stay with me for a weekend. It worked for us, because we had been talking on the phone for an hour every day for three months, so there was no uncomfortableness, but if I hadnt felt so comfortable with it, then a weekend might have been too long.
I dont see what the big deal is, theres nothing to lose, he's no likely to be a wierdo than is any random you see in the street
As long as you have common sense then i see no reason to not meet him. 2 hours is not far, either
As others have said, let him come to you so that your in a familiar place should it all go pear shaped
probably dont do what i did and take him straight back to your house to drop his bags off :razz: