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Having it out
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OK, so due to crap communication between me and my girlfriend there have been a lot of problems building up lately. Things she's said or done that have upset me or made me angry that i've just tried to ignore and have ended up festering.
Now I've decided to bite the bullet and tell her how I feel as I think it's affecting how I act with her (i'm getting a bit short with her and getting the hump over the slightest things). The trouble is i'm not seeing her until Friday night and of course I want to do this face to face.
Do I tell her now that I plan on having a serious 'chat' with her the next time I see her, or do I wait until Friday and then just bring everything up? The trouble with the second option is that i've tried that before and I always end up feeling bad nad not saying anything. I was thinking if I tell her now then both of us will be prepared and there's no getting out of it, but is this really wise to worry her for the next two days?
Thoughts please?
Now I've decided to bite the bullet and tell her how I feel as I think it's affecting how I act with her (i'm getting a bit short with her and getting the hump over the slightest things). The trouble is i'm not seeing her until Friday night and of course I want to do this face to face.
Do I tell her now that I plan on having a serious 'chat' with her the next time I see her, or do I wait until Friday and then just bring everything up? The trouble with the second option is that i've tried that before and I always end up feeling bad nad not saying anything. I was thinking if I tell her now then both of us will be prepared and there's no getting out of it, but is this really wise to worry her for the next two days?
Thoughts please?
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Whatever you do, it's a great thing that you've decided to talk things out. Biting your tongue works sometimes but when it gets to the point of keeping things festering inside then it's a recipe for disaster - when you do let it all out try and moderate yourself, as often pent-up feelings are a lot stronger than you even know yourself. Good luck with it, I'm sure it'll help you both - and your relationship - a lot
I've e-mailed her and apologised if i've seemed a bit off lately and that there's just a few things I need to get off my chest and I'll tell her on Friday. She didn't seem be too worried in her reply.
Now i've just got to pluck up the courage to say everythingI want to say tomorrow, i'm not very good at confrontation. :nervous:
Wow, I must have been doing exactly that as you wrote your post!
Putting it all down on paper also helped me realise these aren't major problems that can't be resolved, but things I still want to get off my chest nevertheless. I think i've been daft to let them sit there this long without saying anything as they've just made things a hundred times worse.