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Hi, I'm new here, but was hoping someone might be able to give me some advice..
Basically I broke up with my girlfriend of over 3 years about a week ago. I did it for a number of reasons, mainly because I'm going off to uni in september and don't like the idea of a long-distance thing and also I was starting to feel a bit trapped and the idea of settling down at the age of 20 was scary I guess (it didn't help that she was a bit obbsessive and often went on about marriage and stuff).
I was convinced I was doing the right thing and to be honest I felt nothing but excitement at being single again straight afterwards. The thing is it's now been a week suddenly everything hit me and now I'm feeling really down. It came from the thought of her being with other people, it really makes me feel physically sick thinking about it. It also doesn't help that one of our mates was trying to make me feel less guilty about finishing it told me that she was seems fine about it and is basically happy (I thought she'd be moping about still.)
I know it sounds terrible (I'm basically saying I wish she was devestated) but I can't help it. As this was my first long term relationship I have no idea how I should feel or how to get over it, so if anyone has any advice I would really appreciate it.
Basically I broke up with my girlfriend of over 3 years about a week ago. I did it for a number of reasons, mainly because I'm going off to uni in september and don't like the idea of a long-distance thing and also I was starting to feel a bit trapped and the idea of settling down at the age of 20 was scary I guess (it didn't help that she was a bit obbsessive and often went on about marriage and stuff).
I was convinced I was doing the right thing and to be honest I felt nothing but excitement at being single again straight afterwards. The thing is it's now been a week suddenly everything hit me and now I'm feeling really down. It came from the thought of her being with other people, it really makes me feel physically sick thinking about it. It also doesn't help that one of our mates was trying to make me feel less guilty about finishing it told me that she was seems fine about it and is basically happy (I thought she'd be moping about still.)
I know it sounds terrible (I'm basically saying I wish she was devestated) but I can't help it. As this was my first long term relationship I have no idea how I should feel or how to get over it, so if anyone has any advice I would really appreciate it.
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