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I went out with this guy for 4 weeks until my brother found out and threatened to tell my mum, doesn't sound like a big deal but i was 14 and he was 22. I no it doesn't matter what people think but i was really stupid and dumped him. A while after we went out again we were both in love with each other and all but the same thing happened. Its now been about a year and I really want him back. I think he feels the same way because just before he got with his new girlfriend (now hes fiancee) he said he really loved me and wanted me back. Any ideas on how I can win him back? (wrong way to put it but not sure how else i can!)
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Doesn't that ring any alarm bells in your head?
That's alright then.
The second huge problem would be him being engaged.
Honestly, cut all contact with him and forget him. For your own sake.
Exactly, just the thought of fancying a 12 year old, even a 14 year old at my age is just so wrong.
Pedo really.
Lets go down to the local park with the jungle gym and swings and check out the hotties when they go down the slide, maybe we'll get to see their panties when they swing
A 20 year old with a 12 year old, and a 22 w/ a 14. The guy is an adult, you are a child. Just because he's not 42 with a moustache doesn't make it any less creepy.
He is a flat out pedophile pervert.
I'm basically the same. I'm only 17, but fancying a 14 seems wrong to me.
I would say that it's extremely likely this man has very low self esteem and little experience of the opposite sex. Therefore, he feels he can only get girls that are much younger than him. It's not useful to label him as a paedophile, which is quite different.
To the topic starter, ignore this guy and look for someone closer to your own age. He is obviously happy with someone else if she's his fiance, so if you care about him at all, you'll just leave them be.
not a good thing to get yourself into, leave him be - he's not the only guy in the world, you're only 14
Well, if he still loved you, why did he get engaged? And if he REALLY loved you, he would wait until you were at least 16 ... sounds like you have found the village pervert to me. :rolleyes:
Exactly. And what's wrong with finding someone your own age, or not bothering at all?
2. I'm alarmed that you seem more bothered about the age gap, and not that how young you are- and what a 20 yr old is doing with a 12 yr old?!
But the age gap between a 14 and 22 year old sounds huge to me. And it's wrong.
Now you mention it, yes.
The thing is, it's not just an AGE gap. There's a humungous disparity in experience and expectations between a 14 year old and a 22 year old. I cannot for the life of me see how a 14 year old could meet the expectations any normal 22 year old has from a relationship, and I don't JUST mean the sexual ones either. It's beyond me.