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My gay mate
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I am a young man, and one of my best mates is a gay. We have a lot in common,and we spend a lot of time together. The only worry I have is, when he gets drunk he gets very flirty with me. Thats just one thing we don't have in common.
What is the best way to approach him about it, barring in mind that he will deny it. I don't want him to think I don't want to be mates!
What is the best way to approach him about it, barring in mind that he will deny it. I don't want him to think I don't want to be mates!
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or tell him straight out
As a ... *ahem* ... batsman for the other team myself, I would suggest that you do speak to him directly. Many young gay guys get very confused with the signals given off by straight mates so they need to be corrected as soon as possible.
You could say to him something like :-
"You know that our friendship is more important to me than your sexuality. However, when you are drunk, you sometimes appear to be flirting with me and this makes me feel very uncomfortable. If you are doing this on purpose, please stop because this may interfere with our continuing friendship. However, if you are not doing it on purpose, at least you are aware of the situation and can change this impression for next time."
May I also add that he needs to be aware that he is VERY LUCKY to have such a loyal and supportive friend such as you. Many straight guys drop their gay friends as soon as they find out about their sexuality - as if they fear that they may be tarnished with the same brush. You deserve congratulations.