Should i say anything!

Former Member · July 2001

Hiya <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif">
Ive got abit of a sticky problem a few months ago my best friend got together with on of my boy friends, who she thinks is her well "special one" they say they love each other...well thats WRONG!Yeah she loves him but while shes away on holiday just now, hes been sleeping around hitting on everyone that he meets! Hes not aware that i know what hes doing! It would brake her heart if she knew! I want to tell her as she is my best friend BUT he is like my best boy friend and i dont want to do anything to hurt nether of them! Coz if he disnt tell her hes living a lie and i wont let him do that! WHAT SHOULD I DO!
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Former Member · July 2001

These situations are always tricky, on the one hand you could tell her and she could:

a) get spiteful with you and say your jealous
b) do the right thing and finish him

Or alternativly you could keep quiet and:

a) she finds out you know and is pissed
b) you help her through + nothing gets said

Personally I think you should warn her about him, maybe not neccesarily tell her direct about his actions but warn her what hes like and explain you'll be there for her...

Hope that helps anyway... <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">

Former Member · July 2001

tell her tactfully, she has a right to now.

along the lines of "i've been hearing reports that you're boyfriend hasn't exactly been behaving himself while you were out of the country" sorta thing <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif">

<IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"> good luck,

Former Member · July 2001

I think I'd probably talk to him about it and tell him it isn't fair on your friend. I'd say that if he isn't gonna calm it down a bit then he shouldn't be with her, but if he does really love her then he should pack it in right now. Just explain you don't want your friend getting hurt and if he does decide to stop messing around then tell him you won't say anything to her about it but if he carries on then I'd have to tell her all about it.

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Former Member · July 2001

Like ~*Heaven Scent*~ said, I think you ought to talk to him first and explain that it's not fair to her, but then give him an ultimatum, either he tells her or you do. She's pretty likely to find out about it from someone, and even though she might be angry with you at first it'll be better for her to hear through you or him.

Former Member · July 2001

She definatly has the right to no and like the others said, if u explain to him that u no the situation and he dont tell her himself then u should.

Former Member · July 2001

Originally posted by lolly:
She definatly has the right to no and like the others said, if u explain to him that u no the situation and he dont tell her himself then u should.

Yeah true but it's worse to be stuck in the middle and somehow you always manage to be the bad guy (woman) when actually you're the good one!!!!!!!!

Personally as long as no-one else knew i knew, i'd keep quiet

Former Member · July 2001

How about this.. collar him and tell him that if he doesnt stop messing about you will tell your best mate everything.. that way he gets one more chance.. she doesn't get hurt and u get rid of a guilty conscience? <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif">

Akasha xx

Former Member · July 2001

i think you should confront him. if he is your m8 then he'll listen to what you have to say. Explain that it isnt fair and if he doesnt stop now then he should tell her what he's been up to when she gets back or tell him if it carries on you will have to tell her because she doesnt deserve to have her heart broken. Put yourself in her position, would you want to know if your man hand been doing that to you? If so then i think you should say something. If it were me i would rather my friend tell me than carry on a relationship where everyone knows its fake except me and i get humiliated. Good Luck miss_K...xxx...

Former Member · July 2001

Yeah but you've all got to remember how hard it is to confront a friend. Not just that but you can't just go accusing coz then it all blows out of proportion and if they split up or she finds out etc. it always manages to make you feel guilty. But it's not just you i'm thinking of but my advice is wait till she comes home and just hope she found someone coz then they're both in the WRONG!!!

Former Member · July 2001

hi Akasha, you new? welcome, welcome <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">

she definitely has a right to know, Miss_K, even if it's just a few hints. but I think Akasha's idea wasn't bad - he'll know he's in the wrong so even if he is your best boy friend it shouldn't stop you pointing it out.

hprrible situation, good luck with it!

Confidence is the feeling you sometimes have before you fully understand the situation.
- Anon

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