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Am I stupid?
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not sure if this goes in this forum but its the closest which I could get it, anyway last year my cat got knocked down and died, he was only twelve months old. It sounds stupid but he was my best friend and I could talk to him about anything and he couldn't answer back. When he died it felt like a part of me went as well (i no im stupid because he was only a cat). I stopped eating and drinking for about a week and a half then my parents were forcing me to. Its just came up to the anniversary of his death and im feeling really down again, its only been a year but a day hasn't gone by when i haven't thought about him. I got another cat a few months back but it isn't the same but he has many characteristics which my other cat had and it makes me really upset when he does them. The thing im trying to get at is im i being stupid because he was only a cat?
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I get very attached to my pets. I would be completely devestated if my favourite cat died, or my dog, or my ferret.
You just need to concentrate on the fact that all things have to die some day.
A few months back my 18 year old cat died, he was ace, and soo old and ill and well at least he's at peace now
The worst is when you dream about them and you wake up and realise it's just a dream. I still miss him from time to time as anyone who had a pet they loved would understand.. but it does get easier.
I've never had any of my close family die yet, but I'm a bit worried when it does happen.
Have you tried telling them that you miss your cat, and that maybe you could do with a break (a family trip to the park or something).
Talking to family about being unhappy is very hard, but you could try to say it in otherways that people close to you could pick up on.
if you keep telling yourself you are stupid for feeling and grieving the pain will never go away.
just accept how you feel, and you'll begin to move on.
I can definitely imagine around the anniversary you'd feel down, especially if you didn't really allow yourself to accept your grief and work through it - as otter said. I don't really know what else to say, except that my heart really does go out to you, and I hope you start to feel sunnier again soon