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I dont really know why Im writing this, to feel better I guess and get advice. Basically Ive been with my gf for 11 months and shes my first one and now she wants to end it. She said she didnt feel the same anymore but I know she was feeling down and I dont want to believe that shes always going to feel like that. Recently we had been arguing more but I really thought that could be sorted out but then she didnt contact me since last saturday and then she says she thinks its best if we split up but last time this happened things got sorted only this time seems loads worse. When she said she didnt fell the same I was so gutted coz I really love her so much and I know it isnt just coz shes my first gf I just feel so much for her. We hadnt even had sex yet so our relationship relied on so much else and I feel so comfused about it. How can I go from seeing her most nights to not seeing her at all. All these thoughts of seeing her with other boys and never seeing her again just make me so upset and Im never normally that emotional but I am over this coz I really felt so much for her and dont want to let her go. I just dont know if theresany hope of sorting this, Ive been txting her non-stop probably annoying her loads but she hasnt written back and I am so gutted. I just wish things could be sorted but she wont speak to me and I dunno if her friends are having any say in this but I dunno what to do or if I cant do anything how I can get over her because I hadnt had the best family life and she was the closest Id ever been to anyone and I dont know how to get on without it. She said she'd bene thinking about us for a month but she hadnt said anything to me and a few petiti arguments eemed like nothing. I dont get hos her feelings could change just like that after all this and there must be some way I can sort this out if he felt something for me to start with. There must be a chance she does feel something till surely, she always said about us being special, lasting for ages and all that in cards and txts, I dunno what to do, Im just at a dead end street I guess. I hope I havnt bored you lot, I just had to let it out somewhere.
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this situation sounds very familiar to me.
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it seems like she brought this up as a complee surprise? have you talked about it together at all?
Confidence is the feeling you sometimes have before you fully understand the situation.
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This sounds familiar to me too.
I'd say try talking to her but if she won't reply to any of your txts then maybe that might happen. What about going round to see her?
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i remember when i first got dumped, it was on the fone and i was hit by shock...heart started beating, hand shaking a little, u just dont expect it
it will get easier - try to remember however you felt when you dump someone else and what u wanted. probably to talk, some reasoning, a bit of understanding etc and after being dumped, i changed the ways of how i dumped people...i say "dumped", sounds really bad - "ended it" sounds better, but all amounts to the same thing. i always do it in person now, for example.
as for advice - just try and get as much time on your own and with your mates as possible. try not to rebound straight away because it leads to complications. dont harass her and maybe she'll even miss you - but don't use that as an excuse not to have a life. take it as it being over, try and move on, try not to be attached on her or reliant on her for company and you'll be fine <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
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That's his problem, she was his first girlfriend so it's difficult for him to imagine wanting to dump anyone.
To tell you the truth dude, it sounds like she's put a lot of thought into this and that there's not a lot of chance that you're going to get back together. It's really difficult to split with someone when they haven't changed the way they feel and you have, but at the end of the day she's been fairer to both of you by telling you now than if she'd kept going out with you and pretending things were ok when they weren't.
Right now it probably feels like the end of the world, that things are never going to be right again, and it's a horrible way to feel. But you just have to trust me when I say that things will start to feel better, and things will be different, but you need to get on with your life like MD said, and it'll help. Whatever you do it's going to hurt and you're going to miss her, but it'll hurt for longer if you sit around in your room moping. Good luck dude <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
dcr, you poor thing, it's horrible when it comes as a complete shock. the only thing we can really say is you will get over it and meet someone else. try not to meet anyone on the rebound though! - that's even more painful. in a couple of months, maybe less, you'll look back on the good times and see that it was for the best, in the end. "every cloud has a silver lining," even if you don't yet see it.
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Confidence is the feeling you sometimes have before you fully understand the situation.
- Anon
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well it's kinda the main reason for being here...anything else is just playful stuff ...it's not like i try and hinder people ...not what u thought was it? <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.stopstart.fsnet.co.uk/smilie/conf.gif">
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