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BillieTheBot
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I've decided to thread this, I just don't know what else I can do about it. This concerns me and a potential girlfriend. As you might know, I went back for a second season at Haven back in April. It's been okay so far. I've met someone absolutely amazing, who I shall call "R" for the sakes of this. Things have gone along quite swimmingly. There's definitely a good chemistry between us, and we're enjoying each other's company. I've got feelings for her already, and I get the idea it's mutual, though she hasn't explicity said it in those words.
A few weeks ago, we went out to dinner together, and it was huge fun. But the next day, she turned round and said she didn't want us to do this again. I was bemused, and rather upset. I admit I cried about it afterwards. A few days later, she came back to me and apologised for it, saying she just got nervous. She also told me about her first boyfriend. (she finished with him about 18 months ago) She left him because he was prone to violent outbursts. By that, I don't mean on her. He generally had a problem with his temper, and she was pretty intimidated in his company, so she got out of that one as soon as she could. Thing is, it's left her feeling scarred, and nervous about men.
She's started hugging me and talking about more private stuff now, basically starting to trust me more. She wants "us to be careful, to take things at a slow pace", in her words. Which is where the problem lies. As she knows, I'm off to university in Bristol in just over three months. She'll also be going back home in October, due to end of season. And I don't know what to do. Do I try and pursue a relationship with her, knowing how much time we have is limited? The idea of a long-distance relationship is one I'm very uneasy about. Or do I just let this be? I'm falling for her, and this is breaking my heart.
Any advice, much appreciated.
A few weeks ago, we went out to dinner together, and it was huge fun. But the next day, she turned round and said she didn't want us to do this again. I was bemused, and rather upset. I admit I cried about it afterwards. A few days later, she came back to me and apologised for it, saying she just got nervous. She also told me about her first boyfriend. (she finished with him about 18 months ago) She left him because he was prone to violent outbursts. By that, I don't mean on her. He generally had a problem with his temper, and she was pretty intimidated in his company, so she got out of that one as soon as she could. Thing is, it's left her feeling scarred, and nervous about men.
She's started hugging me and talking about more private stuff now, basically starting to trust me more. She wants "us to be careful, to take things at a slow pace", in her words. Which is where the problem lies. As she knows, I'm off to university in Bristol in just over three months. She'll also be going back home in October, due to end of season. And I don't know what to do. Do I try and pursue a relationship with her, knowing how much time we have is limited? The idea of a long-distance relationship is one I'm very uneasy about. Or do I just let this be? I'm falling for her, and this is breaking my heart.
Any advice, much appreciated.
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Go for it.
my favourite part of the story is how you actually never refer to her as R.
in seriousness though - don't make any plans. just see what happens. and don't make any promises you can't keep.
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I agree completely
Hehe i never noticed that. Made me chuckle.
Try not to make a big issue out of this uni thing with her until it actually happens i.e after the summer.
yeah, i agree. do something if you love her alot, but if you dont, leave it.