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PLEASE SOME1 HELP ME !!!!!!!!!!
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ok this may take some time so i hope u will all be patient and HELP ME!!!
right about 2 weeks before me and my bf got together he went to the pub with some mates. 1 of his mates (niel) brought a work mate with him, who is called louise (it hurts to say the name) shes 28 (over 25!) and is married!
my bf was 16, he talked to her and at the end of the night they kissed, not a full on snog but not just a peck (i was'nt there) afterwards she told niel that she really liked him.
then when me and my bf had been together ABOUT 2 weeks, i went to a party with a friend who was moving miles away soon after. i asked jamie my bf if he wanted to go he said he would try and get there. i also rang him again when i was at the party and his mum said he was at the pub with some mates.
apparently when he got there louise was there (obviously planned by niel) they all said ok we'll come back 4 u in 1/2 hour, so he was alone with her, after 1.
/2 hour they rang him and said they would come in another 1/2 hour. it was so obvious they were'nt coming back.
oh god im gonna cry again!!! sorry but it really upsets me talking about this.
she was flirting with him and he new it, she was saying "shes really lucky int she". and he told me that he said nothing was going to happen. but it should'nt have anyway she was married and 28, and i have been told she is not exactly stunning and thats not judging her.
he said to me he did'nt like her even before he met me. but i don't like the thought of her sat talking about me when she has'nt even met me
oh yes when i forst got with jamie she had texed him and apparently asked him 2 meet her. but whata coincidence that he deleted them before i could see them. jamie is really possesive of me and i asked him if he would feel ok about it if i had been sat in a pub all night with a 28 year old man who i new liked me and turned round to jamie and said "we were only talking". obviously jamier said he would'nt feel ok about it.
now i know that u pepps may say well they did'nt do anything, but this is 1 thing what really really gets to me,i just cant let it go i have tried but i cant.
i have said to him that if i saw her i would really lose my temper with her. i have tried talking to him about it but when i asked what she was sayig he says i cant remember.
i told him it was over last night but we are back together now, because i really do love him and i dont want to split up.
oh yeah soon after this night niel texted jamie and asked him to go to a patry and said "louise will be there!" luckily i was there when he got the text but he would'nt let me text neil back and just get him to pass a message on to her. he said it would cause to much trouble. of course to me it looks a bit suspicious.
esspecially when i get a text from a mate at school whos messing around by saying "so can i come round 4 that valentines shag!" jamie flies off the handle and wants to text him back and says im gonna kill him.
anyways ive gone on enough now please any1 ask me anything about it, give ur advice just HELP ME!!!!!
right about 2 weeks before me and my bf got together he went to the pub with some mates. 1 of his mates (niel) brought a work mate with him, who is called louise (it hurts to say the name) shes 28 (over 25!) and is married!
my bf was 16, he talked to her and at the end of the night they kissed, not a full on snog but not just a peck (i was'nt there) afterwards she told niel that she really liked him.
then when me and my bf had been together ABOUT 2 weeks, i went to a party with a friend who was moving miles away soon after. i asked jamie my bf if he wanted to go he said he would try and get there. i also rang him again when i was at the party and his mum said he was at the pub with some mates.
apparently when he got there louise was there (obviously planned by niel) they all said ok we'll come back 4 u in 1/2 hour, so he was alone with her, after 1.
/2 hour they rang him and said they would come in another 1/2 hour. it was so obvious they were'nt coming back.
oh god im gonna cry again!!! sorry but it really upsets me talking about this.
she was flirting with him and he new it, she was saying "shes really lucky int she". and he told me that he said nothing was going to happen. but it should'nt have anyway she was married and 28, and i have been told she is not exactly stunning and thats not judging her.
he said to me he did'nt like her even before he met me. but i don't like the thought of her sat talking about me when she has'nt even met me
oh yes when i forst got with jamie she had texed him and apparently asked him 2 meet her. but whata coincidence that he deleted them before i could see them. jamie is really possesive of me and i asked him if he would feel ok about it if i had been sat in a pub all night with a 28 year old man who i new liked me and turned round to jamie and said "we were only talking". obviously jamier said he would'nt feel ok about it.
now i know that u pepps may say well they did'nt do anything, but this is 1 thing what really really gets to me,i just cant let it go i have tried but i cant.
i have said to him that if i saw her i would really lose my temper with her. i have tried talking to him about it but when i asked what she was sayig he says i cant remember.
i told him it was over last night but we are back together now, because i really do love him and i dont want to split up.
oh yeah soon after this night niel texted jamie and asked him to go to a patry and said "louise will be there!" luckily i was there when he got the text but he would'nt let me text neil back and just get him to pass a message on to her. he said it would cause to much trouble. of course to me it looks a bit suspicious.
esspecially when i get a text from a mate at school whos messing around by saying "so can i come round 4 that valentines shag!" jamie flies off the handle and wants to text him back and says im gonna kill him.
anyways ive gone on enough now please any1 ask me anything about it, give ur advice just HELP ME!!!!!
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You're fairly paranoid and don't feel he has 100% self control of himself: always a bad thing.
Diagnosis: you're fucked. well, ok, not fucked. but maybe put some time and effort (for both of you) into learning to be relaxed when each other is around members of the opposite sex.
jamie has fairly well proved to you that he is devoted. yeah, ok, so he might have a few feelings for this woman - big whoop. I for one (and i'm sure many other guys) find it very hard to completely devote my heart to one person, but that doesn't mean i would cheat on whoever i happen to be going out with.
relax and stop being paranoid.
I don't live to work, I work to live and I live at the weekends. I'm the last of the big time drinkers.
you need to sort it out before it destroys you.
sorry if that sounds harsh but i'm afraid thats the way it is.
good luck
i'm not denying that women are stupid; God made us to match the men.
"Is sex dirty? Only if its done right."
- Woody Allen
yesterday night i met him from work and from the moment we met i new we were headin 4 a massive row!and i was right we did! and i ended up srorming out of his house, luckily he followed me, and we went to the pub.
i told him EXACTLY how i feel about her and the fact that he did'nt tell me about the night he sat in the pub with her and how it made me feel tht i had to find out off someone else.
we argued and i said there was no point in us going out anymore, i could see how much this hurt him as tears started to brew! and it hurt me to becos i do love him more than anything.
anyway time passed and he lent over to kiss me, it was lovly!just like our first kiss anyway, it was nearly time for me to go and he got the bus into town with me and asked if we could giveit another go, i said yes but we really have to stop dragging up the past and learn to trust eachother more.
so hopefully we'll make it, its just i don't know how to trust him???????he has not really done anything to make me not trust him but he is decitful.
anyway keep writin my friends!!!!
luv jo xxx
i know how u feel girl, i used to find it really hard to trust my ex too. Jamie obviously luvs u loads. we can't tell u how to trust him, that comes from within.
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I wonder who she is
Sometimes I think I know her
Sometimes I really wish I did
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