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ive been going out with a girl now for about 2 and a half months, its quite serious, we like each other a lot and have gone 'the full way' but recently have been finding she dosent really put much effort into the relationship (well she never used to either). I am always the one asking if she wants to do something (apart from the odd occasion where if shes in my area she'll ask me), we don't go to the same school so if lucky i get to see her once or twice a week, maybe 3. But if it was left to her we'd prolly be lucky to see each other once a month. I dont think its that she dosent want to see me (well i hope not), its because she dosent like planning stuff and is quite lazy tbh haha. Whats the best option, give the 'silent treatment' for a while and wait until she asks me to do stuff, or just confront her about it and say 'oi love, you put crap all effort into the relationship'? thanks for any advice.
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I had to actually split up with my boyfriend for him to really get down to it, well I gave him his things back, he decided to end it as was scared of the commitment and didn't know what he wanted, then he decided what he wanted and since we got back together he's been acting much more like a boyfriend. That's not to say it's always him chasing me now, but it's more even.