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As some of you might or might not know I was the guy who cleverly lost their v-plates out in Amsterdam:
http://vbulletin.thesite.org/showthread.php?t=95686&highlight=amsterdam
To quickly update, I took follow up tests and am clean of any STDs (I did use protection but had to be sure)
The thing now is getting my life back on track. I feel like an absolute fraud with everyone....my family are proud of me, my friends like me, but I feel like I have really let myself and everyone down. I am constantly reminding myself of it and it's awful. I really wish I had had a gf or someone special to me to lose it but the 2 or 3 girls I really connected with, well they just didn't work out. The question is when I do meet someone eventually and things do come together what should you and shouldn't you tell your partner? What about direct questions? I get the impression that the majority of women are either in the opinion that it is outright wrong or is fine so long as it's never a man they are involved with.....I'm really not a bad person but I'm worried I'll be judged like one if I am truthful, but the truth sometimes hurts those we love.
I'm waffling and futher confusing myself, so I ask you guys for advice. Thanks.
http://vbulletin.thesite.org/showthread.php?t=95686&highlight=amsterdam
To quickly update, I took follow up tests and am clean of any STDs (I did use protection but had to be sure)
The thing now is getting my life back on track. I feel like an absolute fraud with everyone....my family are proud of me, my friends like me, but I feel like I have really let myself and everyone down. I am constantly reminding myself of it and it's awful. I really wish I had had a gf or someone special to me to lose it but the 2 or 3 girls I really connected with, well they just didn't work out. The question is when I do meet someone eventually and things do come together what should you and shouldn't you tell your partner? What about direct questions? I get the impression that the majority of women are either in the opinion that it is outright wrong or is fine so long as it's never a man they are involved with.....I'm really not a bad person but I'm worried I'll be judged like one if I am truthful, but the truth sometimes hurts those we love.
I'm waffling and futher confusing myself, so I ask you guys for advice. Thanks.
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Better than her finding out later that you lied/didnt tell her and lose her
How many people actually know what you've done? if its not many then keep it that way.
Look like you've learnt the hard way that virginity is a big deal until you've lost it. Guess you live and learn though eh.
Thats what I was meaning before