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help! how do i get this relationship off the ground!
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ok, last friday i asked the girl of my dreams out, she happily said yes. i was ecstatic. we've known each other for a long time, shes really hot and she has the greatest personality in the school. shes perfect. she had family plans all weekend so we hugged and said we'd see each other next week. today in school i had two periods of the same class with her. we sat next to each other and talked but she didn't seem quite as happy as she had been on friday. we sat next to each other at lunch and talked. we held hands walking back to class but it was still like she wasn't very happy about something. back in class i asked her if next weekend she wanted to catach a movie. she didn't say anything for a moment then said "I would but i have to go my friends birthday party". "on a friday night?" I asked. "ya on a friday night".
it was an incredibly blatant lie. I was extremely put off after that and we kind of just worked in silence for the remainder of period. I didn't see her after that.
wtf is wrong? I thought things were going great. I really really really want this relationship to work. any advice?
it was an incredibly blatant lie. I was extremely put off after that and we kind of just worked in silence for the remainder of period. I didn't see her after that.
wtf is wrong? I thought things were going great. I really really really want this relationship to work. any advice?
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are you high?
I hope it all goes well for you
if you are so set in your mind about it, then its probly pointless asking advice from any of us, and that you and her are not right for each other
otherwise i personally think its a lost cause
me: hey wanna catch a movie this weekend?
her: I can't i have a birthday party this weekend
(this is the red flag, a birthday party would only take 1 day a weekend is 3 days includeing friday)
me: on friday?
her:.......... ya friday
That being said, OP, you need to ask her if there's anything wrong, because like everyone else has said if you don't start out caring about each other, it's already over.
maybe i'm just extremely paranoid?
Nah man, just try and chill. Things will be a happenin if you let them.
at the moment *looks around suspicously*
She was holding your hand and sitting next to you in class - that's a pretty big indication that she likes you - so take things one step at a time.
Maybe she was hesitating because she really wanted to go out with you and didn't know how to say that she was buzy on that day.
I would leave it a few days and then try and arrange something else - maybe a full on date is a little scary for her - how about a joint study session or something - with pizza!
But overall you just have to take things softly softly at the moment you dont' want to scare her off by accusing her of lying or jumping to the wrong conclusion all the time. Girls like a guy who has confidence but also is quite chilled out and has a little air of mystary.
after just under a week of going out this is by FAR the best relationship i've had. if i can safely say that after a week of going out then i know somethings going right
and i guess shes not avoiding me or anything because she invited me to her house this weekend
Try not to let it turn into one of them things when you're either in the depths of despair or jumping for joy (me = alliteration GOD) because that'll just fuck your head up.
You'll find a happy medium and you'll be sorted.