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OK me and my girlfriend are planning to sleep together sometime soon, but I have never slept with a girl before, so a bit nervous!
Someone give me some tips! Ahh help Im really nervous now!
But exited too
Someone give me some tips! Ahh help Im really nervous now!
But exited too
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Believe me there is no tips needed, it will come to you naturally
use a dam instead me thinks.
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just take it naturally.
I thought so!
Just relax, and enjoy it, pay lots of attention to each other, an let each other know what you like an what feels good. But mostly take your time an have fun.
you'll probably be overtaken by the urge to speed up lots, dont do this all of a sudden- gradually increase the pace and watch her reaction, and once again, ask if she's ok, you might get a "mm-hm" in which case ease off a bit, but she might be more enthusiastic, which will probably mean you're good to go!
if you live with parents you might wanna put something on the bed in case she bleeds lots (i didn't personally, but there is usually some blood and i hear that it can be quite a bit in some cases)
the thinner the condom the better it feels (still no comparison to condomless sex, but hey) so featherlight or something are good. carefully tear the foil open before you get down to foreplay, so you can be quicker getting it on. maybe also practice putting one on in advance, they're annoying fiddly buggers, and theres nothing like pinging one accross the room to break up the ambience.
most importantly, relax, make sure she's relaxed, and be comfortable enough about it that if something goes wrong you can laugh about it and carry on, rather than it screwing up the whole thing. dont worry- chances are it'll be fine- the fact that you're doing it with someone you care about will make a huge difference.
Both Female
Dont worry yourself about that, just relax and enjoy yourself, itll be fine
snog her face off. A good kiss always gets me warmed up!
With lots of nice kisses. If its her first time too she'll feel the same, so just take it slowly an do what feels right. It'll come to you.
Ooo yeah and that.
Well I havnt had sex with a woman but I know what I like a man to do, I guess the same principles apply. Just make sure you communicate about what you both like and enjoy.
...and don't we know it! Jus' kidding, I love a good schnog too
Really though, just go with the flow and like someone said already...communicate! Tell each other what feels good, what's not so great, what else you'd like to do/have done to you. Have fun, I'm sure you will :thumb:
And, as the others have said, communicate - if something feels good, make sure she knows, and if not, then guide her to what works for you.
there is probably as many ways to have sex with another woman as there are women!!
thing is though, everybody seems to think that same thing ~ that any girl / woman should know how to be the perfect lover since she knows what pleases her. she knows the inns and outs of her own body so therfore she knows what works for all women. the truth is though, that really, all women are different.
and not all women know how to please themselves I would have thought
seriously though, yes. you are right.
good luck.
But seriously, as everyone else has said, just relax and take it slowly, it'll all come naturally
Aww no! No one told me that! In which case... I get foreplay from many random drunk guys every time I go out!
God, I'm such a slut...