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Advice about my future with my girlfriend
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Hi, I'm new to this and found the site whilst looking for advice.
Anyway here's my problem,
I have been going out with a girl for 18 months and we have been through so much, it is the first long term relationship for either of us. We are both 17. For the last couple of months I have been feeling less and less towards her, I used to be completely head over heels for her but I just dont feel the same anymore. Also I dont want to end up trapped with her, I want to experience things with other people. Part of me says that she is such a great person and that I will never find somebody better but the other side of me says that if I dont do something I will never find out. I thought I would just persevere and hope that my feelings returned, but im just loving her less and less, and I dont want to end up hating her. Something somebody said to me made my mind up and I was going to finish it but, I am meant to be going to Manchester with her in a week or two (we are in Edinburgh) and I can't finish with her before that can I? Or is it unfair to go with her when I am feeling like this?
Please share your advice. Thanks
Anyway here's my problem,
I have been going out with a girl for 18 months and we have been through so much, it is the first long term relationship for either of us. We are both 17. For the last couple of months I have been feeling less and less towards her, I used to be completely head over heels for her but I just dont feel the same anymore. Also I dont want to end up trapped with her, I want to experience things with other people. Part of me says that she is such a great person and that I will never find somebody better but the other side of me says that if I dont do something I will never find out. I thought I would just persevere and hope that my feelings returned, but im just loving her less and less, and I dont want to end up hating her. Something somebody said to me made my mind up and I was going to finish it but, I am meant to be going to Manchester with her in a week or two (we are in Edinburgh) and I can't finish with her before that can I? Or is it unfair to go with her when I am feeling like this?
Please share your advice. Thanks
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It's right what you said - if you don't think it will work, and you are having these doubts all the time - the relationship will become strained. That wouldn't be good for you or her.
You're still very young, there is no rush to find love. Love normally tends to find you anyway, not the other way round
Of course, you still may be able to make it work. I think you should try your hardest for the next two weeks or so, including the trip. Then after that period, think about whether or not it's going to work.
Good luck