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A question for the guys...
BillieTheBot
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If you sleep with a girl shortly after asking her out, for example, first or second date, is that because you are just after sex? Is it because you don't respect her? Or do you respect the girl but feel ready to sleep with her?
Do guys have a lack of respect for girls that sleep with them very early on?
Just wanting a few opinions really.
Do guys have a lack of respect for girls that sleep with them very early on?
Just wanting a few opinions really.
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I think it depends on the guy and I bet you probably already know deep down which kind he is...
You can sleep together on the first night because of extreme attraction and passion and not because you are after sex or have sex in mind...
I believe some of the biggest love story can start with sex on first date because the passion and love is there from the start...
Nope, some people just like having sex. For men, sex usually isn't that big a deal, women are slightly different...they usually attach some deeper meaning to it.
Nope.
I mean there is no link between that and telling if someone is a dirty slag or not.
Depends how much he thinks about it.
I've slept with girls on the first night and the next morning they are desperate to explain that they don't normally do that kind of thing etc etc. (don't want to be viewed as easy)
Sometimes I believe them, sometimes I don't. Who cares anyway? If you’re after a relationship then trust is a lot more important than whether you put out on the first night or not.
No! I would be disappointed if she didn't!
this annoys me because i have a high sex drive and if i fancy a guy then i will want to have sex just as much as he will. its shit that people think if a girl wants to have sex then she does it with every guy who wants it. i can still be fussy about who i sleep with!
I hate those weird double standards for men and women.
Nope. If someone did that, and then never talked to the girl again, then *that* might mean that they were only after sex.
I'm not sure why anyone would have sex with someone who they don't respect, but maybe that's just me.
I can't answer for guys in general, but the amount of time between meeting someone and having sex with them was never something I considered an issue. I'm not sure why it would make any difference.
I'm not really keen on the whole dating and waiting thing. Fair enough if a girls not ready i don't want to rush her but chances are we're very different people if she's doing that.
Having said that I have gone after girls with no intention of anything more than a shag so i suppose it just depends.
At the end of the day though you have to do whatever you feel is best for you.
Are those kind of double standards still really a problem? I can only speak for myself and group of friends but none of us have any kind of problem with a girl wanting to get laid. Can it be a big issue?
I mean personally I don't think i'd be too interested in an innocent little princess ... i'd feel guilty ... girls gotta have a bit of experience.
Disagree.
To me that smacks of mind game playing. Not a good start to any relationship.
If a guy judges a woman for daring to have a sex drive, then they're not really worth bothering with.
I slept with my boyfriend the first time we went out (not the first time we met but the first 'date') and we were together for 3 years.
Just because you do it once, it doesn't mean you do it all the time.
it wouldnt mean i was just after sex, different relationships move at different speeds due to the actions of both people. i certainly disagree with the comment of "make him wait then you know he likes you" thats utter shite, it should be when the time is right for me.
So to sum up my view - I don't think it matters, if a guy just wants a fuck, whether you give him it on the first date or the 50th, if its just a fuck he wants then he'll fuck you off after the deed anyway.
You're best asking the guy you're with, I'm always straight up-front and if am only after sex I let the girl know, its then her choice whether she wants to experience the ride of her life or not hehe
Lets put it this way. I don't mind a girl playing a little hard to get.
But then again, there is this thing called the animal attraction!!
I think some guys, and I am not one of them, assume that if a girl does have sex with them immediately that they can "play" 'em how they want. I feel sorry for the girls that don't recognise that soon enough.
I slept with my current boyfriend on the first night of "going out" with him after his randomly approaching me the evening before in the pub. It's not something I've done before, but as the previous poster said there's a lot to be said for so-called animal attraction. I knew I wanted to actually have some form of a "relationship" with him - but of course there was always the risk that he would see it as a one night stand despite having said contrary to that. It's always a bit of a gamble, so maybe it is worth making your intentions clear -- not that I'm sure that'd change anything anyway. Ah, very confusing