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Not sure about my current relationship
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So I've being 'dating' my new boy for a few weeks, he's really keen and wanting to see me more and more which should be great right? Only it isn't I think he likes me a lot more than I like him. I should be gagging to see him but I'm just indifferent really, I've tried telling him I want to take things slower but to be honest I'm not sure it could actually get any slower!
The sex is GREAT, he's great, everything you could ask for I'm just not feeling it, it doesn't feel right. I'm not getting that heart beating so fast you think you're gonna faint when he kisses me or any excitment at all when I know I'm going to be seeing him....and this is only the first few weeks. I know I'm the luckiest woman to have him all to myself but I don't feel like that.
Had an argument with him today because he wanted me to go away with him this weekend but I just can't face it.
Just wanted to sound off really, can't talk to my close friends because they all love him (even my male friends who never ever like anyone I date) and I know they'd tell me to stop being stupid but surely its wrong to drag this on when I'm not feeling it? Surely it'd be better to tell him now?
What makes this all worse is I get all those excited feelings when I spend time at his flat with his flatmate!!! I'm not saying anything would happen with him because I know it wouldn't but its just wrong!
Thanx for reading this so far. x
The sex is GREAT, he's great, everything you could ask for I'm just not feeling it, it doesn't feel right. I'm not getting that heart beating so fast you think you're gonna faint when he kisses me or any excitment at all when I know I'm going to be seeing him....and this is only the first few weeks. I know I'm the luckiest woman to have him all to myself but I don't feel like that.
Had an argument with him today because he wanted me to go away with him this weekend but I just can't face it.
Just wanted to sound off really, can't talk to my close friends because they all love him (even my male friends who never ever like anyone I date) and I know they'd tell me to stop being stupid but surely its wrong to drag this on when I'm not feeling it? Surely it'd be better to tell him now?
What makes this all worse is I get all those excited feelings when I spend time at his flat with his flatmate!!! I'm not saying anything would happen with him because I know it wouldn't but its just wrong!
Thanx for reading this so far. x
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If you've tried telling him that you want to go slower, there isn't much else you can do but put him straight.
Hope that helps
I feel so guilty. I've known him for a few years and we were friends but nothing ever happened between us because he lived in another country for a while but he moved back to our home town, not because of me. I thought it would be so perfect.
You are right, I know you are but I know this is going to hit him hard (thats not me being big headed, I just know he thinks this is going to be a happy ending) I have no idea how to do it. :crying:
Good luck. I know tehres no easy way to do it... but just keep reassuring yourself that you're doing the right thing
Thank you.
I really want to stay friends with him too, but I'm not sure that would work..well not straight away at least. Its going to be tough since both of our best friends have just started dating each other too. I get myself into some silly situations. You are right though and it's nice to hear someone say I'm doing the right thing because I'm sure when people around me find out they'll be saying something completely different.
He is glad that we are back together and regrets us splitting up before, so my advice is don't rush into eding it if you have doubts.
I do think that you should talk to him about it though, tell him that you want a bit more space to make it more special when you do see each other. My boyfriend told me that this was his problem after we had split up and I just wished that he had told me before so that I could have backed away a bit and given him the space he needed, instead of him just ending it.
Hope it turns out for the best whichever way you go. Follow your heart, only you know how you feel and what you want, although it won't feel like even you know sometimes x
Yes I totally see what you're saying and I agree completely but I would be following my heart by ending it. I've asked him to cool off but that just didn't work he was back calling me and making plans for weekends away the very next day. He's been telling all my friends how he's so happy and how we're such a great couple etc etc. Its not even at couple status yet for me.
The only thing keeping me with him is the fact that he is so perfect but he just isn't perfect for me, theres no spark for me. It sounds so harsh and its not him at all I just think some people don't get that spark, not ever I really know I never will.
doesn't sound harsh at all. some people click and some don't. doesn't matter how 'perfect' they are or how much your mates like them. your mates don't have to have the relationship.
both of you deserve someone who makes you giddy inside. i think you do right.
If that is what your heart says then I would say that it is the best thing to do. It is best to end it before he gets any more serious if you just don't see a through.
Best of luck hun. Hope all goes well x
It was awful saying goodbye, even though I'll be seeing him in a week or so. So sad it didn't work out but I couldn't lie any longer.
We go to the same pubs so its going to be difficult when we meet new people I'm sure but I'll cross that bridge when I get to it I suppose. Thank you all for your support, it meant a lot. :yes:
Thanks,
It doesn't really feel like much has changed though to be honest, he just rang for a chat a little while ago. He's off out with his friends tonight so I'm guessing he'll be getting very drunk...needless to say I'm staying in out of the way.
I don't even feel that sad, he's a bit cut up but he'll get over it. He's a good looking bloke so I know there'll be plenty of girls after him tonight, not sure how I feel about that but hey ho thats life. I don't want to be all "I don't want him but no-one else can have him" so I'll have to get over it.
Just remember... for as many pretty girls there are out there for him, there are equally as many pretty boys for you! Maybe even more! :thumb:
Yey :thumb:
I can't wait to go looking I can tell you!
Which is why I've discovered I'm slightly enjoying this 'seeing each other' status as of late.
But aye, go enjoy yourself! :yes: