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wat to do about a mate?
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so, heres the story :-
my mate was sleepin with this mate of hers, just a bit of fun so they said. he started telling her he was falling for her, she said she didnt feel the same, but still continued to sleep with him and flirt with him and give mixed signals. i live in student accomadation, she fancied this other lad in our building, and one night slept with him, only to regret it in the morning.
she told her mate about it as she felt guilty, he reacted badly and since hasn't wanted anything to do with her. this was bout 3 months ago now.
but she's still goin on that she realises she loves him, he now has a new girlfriend. its got to the point where i cant have a conversation with her without the conversation going back to him. I am being there for her and ive given her advice, but its got to the point where im just repeating myself to her.
when i split up with my ex, i started a new relationship pretty quickly, but i wouldnt get with my knew guy until i new i was completely over my ex. She seems to be under the impression that she needs someone new to get over him and keeps sayin how am i supposed to know coz i moved on quickly anyway. I'm sick of repeating advice to her.
Her "friend" doesnt live in our building, but has mates here who does, whenever she sees his car outside she just says he's a wanker and shouldnt be here, but in my opinion he still has a right to see his mates and its not as if she sees him anyway,just his car, ive told her that he's not actually doin anything wrong and he's still allowed other mates.
How can i tell her to just get over it? i think i've given all the advice i can give to her, but she just won't listen.
my mate was sleepin with this mate of hers, just a bit of fun so they said. he started telling her he was falling for her, she said she didnt feel the same, but still continued to sleep with him and flirt with him and give mixed signals. i live in student accomadation, she fancied this other lad in our building, and one night slept with him, only to regret it in the morning.
she told her mate about it as she felt guilty, he reacted badly and since hasn't wanted anything to do with her. this was bout 3 months ago now.
but she's still goin on that she realises she loves him, he now has a new girlfriend. its got to the point where i cant have a conversation with her without the conversation going back to him. I am being there for her and ive given her advice, but its got to the point where im just repeating myself to her.
when i split up with my ex, i started a new relationship pretty quickly, but i wouldnt get with my knew guy until i new i was completely over my ex. She seems to be under the impression that she needs someone new to get over him and keeps sayin how am i supposed to know coz i moved on quickly anyway. I'm sick of repeating advice to her.
Her "friend" doesnt live in our building, but has mates here who does, whenever she sees his car outside she just says he's a wanker and shouldnt be here, but in my opinion he still has a right to see his mates and its not as if she sees him anyway,just his car, ive told her that he's not actually doin anything wrong and he's still allowed other mates.
How can i tell her to just get over it? i think i've given all the advice i can give to her, but she just won't listen.
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I had girls like that. Only intrested in me once I start losing intrest. She fucked up, you should just tell her to get on with it.
I can garentee that if he dumped this new girl he is with to get with your mate... your mate would be bored and end it with in 5 mins!
I tell my firends stuff like that all the time if they do my head in, they do me too!
Friends should be able to say things like that.