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where do you find one?
I am gettin over a very serious relationship and its been nearly 3 months not really over him yet, and i need a fuck....some people may not agree with this but i think that it would help me get over my ex. I was talking to a lad the other day over MSN. We met at the gym and he thinks im really fit and i think he is REALLY fit too, so i thought hed be ideal, but he didnt seem to want to! (I thought most men wouldnt turn down casuel sex offered to them on a plate!!) - i wouldnt ever have feelings for him because he is not my type and i wouldnt go out with him. So im stuck because he is the only person i wouldnt call a friend that id want to have sex with (because i wouldnt wanna ruin a relationship) so i was wanderin how you get one?
thanks
I am gettin over a very serious relationship and its been nearly 3 months not really over him yet, and i need a fuck....some people may not agree with this but i think that it would help me get over my ex. I was talking to a lad the other day over MSN. We met at the gym and he thinks im really fit and i think he is REALLY fit too, so i thought hed be ideal, but he didnt seem to want to! (I thought most men wouldnt turn down casuel sex offered to them on a plate!!) - i wouldnt ever have feelings for him because he is not my type and i wouldnt go out with him. So im stuck because he is the only person i wouldnt call a friend that id want to have sex with (because i wouldnt wanna ruin a relationship) so i was wanderin how you get one?
thanks
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Tesco has them on offer at the moment. Buy one get one free. Hurry!!
I am like that now although I never used to be. One night stand, ok. Fuck buddy, no.
One persons feelings for the other normally develop and they end up wanting more out of it.
probably not in the long run no, but it could help you feel better for a while...
With fuck buddies, in the vast majority of cases, there is always one that develops feelings for another and thats where it goes downhill.
And healthy exercise is never a bad thing.
So, make your own conclusions.
I agree though, having a fuck buddy won't help you get over someone but it will make you feel much better and more importantly, satisfied...
In terms of where you get one, type "fuck buddy" in google and see where it takes ya.... :hyper:
Having a fuck buddy is a difficult one, probably unlikely to work while either of you are properly attached to nearby boyfriends/girlfriends, equally likely to have problems if one of you is on a rebound from another relationship.
If you can satisfy all of the above, then you can have a lot of fun.
I'm not total disagreeing but from experience this is the wrong attitude for a fuck buddy.
A fuck buddy is purely for sex. That is it's only purpose. Not for getting over ex's. Like has been said getting over someone takes time nothing else. Sex is great (as long as it is safe) and can help you realise you don't need the ex but that's not all it takes for getting over a relationship.
As to answer you're question as to how to get one, personally, find someone you like but not a close friend (as it can and does generally go very wrong if it's a close friend) and see what they think of the idea. I'm fairly blunt and up front when it come to what I want but it really depends on how you want to approach the subject.
Hi jenni,
As others have suggested - having a fuck buddy doesn't necessarily mean the no-strings attached fantastic sex the label suggests. But it doesn't have to be a bad thing either. TheSite's article may help you to weigh up the pros and cons of having one. You might want to think about how sex with a partner you love and sex with a friend or even 'associate' can differ. Think carefully about why you think it will help you get over your ex - how might you feel after you've got one - and what relation does that have to getting over your ex?
Hope that helps
Thanks for the advce again xxx
good luck let us know what happens!
Don't go deliberatly looking for one especially since you just split up with your lad, go out and enjoy yourself with your mates and enjoy life
Sauce :razz:
However I have found someone who i would call a "fuck buddy". We are getting to know each other and seein how it goes. But so its all good atm but have decided im not gonna just "do" sum1 i know nothing about.
thanks for the advice - btw we split up 94 days ago. So not recent lol
xxxxxx
stop counting now
Lol that was done very nicely.
I have a fuck buddy - when I saw him recently I felt nothing emotionally and it felt pointless and unsatisfying. He's an ex bf from a fair few years ago now. I was very hung up on him and it took an incredibly long time to get over him, so when we would meet for sex, it was more because I wanted to know I could still...seduce him as we never said "Let's meet for sex", it was always shielded with a excuse to see one another. The feelings made it intimate, made it satisfying but made it heartbreaking.
You may want sex...but I think this is wrong for you. I started to feel used when I began to lose the feelings and that's not pleasant, to feel like just a body.
Of course it's different for different people, you maybe able to detach emotionally and just maintain a phsyical thing.
lol yeah!! i dont keep hte number in my head - i know when he left, and i know the date - so i counted!! though i do know roughly how long it is - not always exactly. I know i am sadly in love lol
thanks for the advice - i dont know if it would take the meaning out of sex. I dont think it would for me like you said people are different but i will bear that in mind thanks. Dont you think that if it was someone i was extremely attracted to (body wise) it would feel really good and wouldnt feel like "just a body" but there would be no emothional feelings there? (that doesnt really make sense i dont even know what i mean!!)
xxx
glad mines a 24 hour store still have time to go get one for some action tonight