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How to say "i dont wanna move in with you"
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Basically way back in october, me n my friend had made a half arsed attempt at planning to move out, and this girl we had met on our course called "L" says her mum plans on buying a house, therefore we could all move into a 3 bedroom house together.
Til that is, her bf decides to transfer unis and come to Queens. He is constantly around like a bad smell. She won't go out with us anymore unless he comes. Therefore me n nadine have come to the conclusion we'd rather move in with this other girl we met on our course who wuold be paying her own way(we would be paying extra in lauren's house because lauren doesnt have to pay rent) and wouldn't have her b/f round all the time eating our food.
Problem is, how do me and nadine articulate this to her nicely? The fact that she hasn't actually found a house yet, doesn't know what rent would be, and her leeching b/f round constantly means she's a big no-no as far as a housemate is concerned. Is there any way I can tell her this without losing her friendship? She's going to be in most of my classes for the next 3 years!
We've fuond a few 3 bedroom properties and would love to put a deposit down but don't know how to tell lauren this. :no:
Til that is, her bf decides to transfer unis and come to Queens. He is constantly around like a bad smell. She won't go out with us anymore unless he comes. Therefore me n nadine have come to the conclusion we'd rather move in with this other girl we met on our course who wuold be paying her own way(we would be paying extra in lauren's house because lauren doesnt have to pay rent) and wouldn't have her b/f round all the time eating our food.
Problem is, how do me and nadine articulate this to her nicely? The fact that she hasn't actually found a house yet, doesn't know what rent would be, and her leeching b/f round constantly means she's a big no-no as far as a housemate is concerned. Is there any way I can tell her this without losing her friendship? She's going to be in most of my classes for the next 3 years!
We've fuond a few 3 bedroom properties and would love to put a deposit down but don't know how to tell lauren this. :no:
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grrrrr
its a bit snide to be proffiting off your mate, you think she'd just let u pay bills and stuff
:yeees: yep. When someone else says it out loud it makes me feel stupid.
I just said "look i am looking to move out and get a place with x and x" and he was ok as i gave him lots of notice and if she asks why say what NihilisticMadman suggested.
sorry didnt mean to, i just thort that i had read it wrong because profiting off your mates seems a bit mean,
would she get the money or her mum?
i personally wouldnt live there as things could get a bit funny and personal with late rent or broken things as your not just arandomer that she's letting to (im not suggesting that your a bad flatmate just that these things do sometimes happen) also it could turn into a "you owe my mum money" type situation.
as for how to broch the subject, im not to sure, personally i'd probably nice it up a bit as you dont want to loose a friend over it, burt other than that im not much help sorry
My uni always wanted use to pay our deposit for our rent for the coming year during the summer holidays, so you either have to borrow off your parent's which for some student's was difficult or you have to make sure you had enough left over from the year before.
Best advice be honest with her, tell har as soon as possible, so that she will have time to make other arrangements/find other people to share with. If she does not have to pay any rent, then surely she could put extra money into the 'pot' for shared expenses to cover what her boyfreind will use or ask him to pay into it.
Sorry for thread hijack, I think you need to tell your friend sooner rather than later so that she can find new lodgers. :yes:
well atleast it saved you telling her i suppose