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BillieTheBot
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10 months since i split up with mu boyfriend, i was with him 2 yrs
should it really be taking me this long?? :banghead:
anyone have a simular experiance??
should it really be taking me this long?? :banghead:
anyone have a simular experiance??
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I don't think I'm completely over anyone. There's always a certain something but it gets manageble and I can deal with it.
I think you just have to let it take it's course.
It's been three years since i last saw the love of my life and there aint a day goes by when she doesn't come in to my head at some point. First love and all that. I've accepted it'll probably never quite go away, at least not for a long while anyway, but it's not like i brood over it or obsess about it anymore. Yeah it's there, but i've done fine with other girls since and i just get on with it....
You sound like you could do with a big *hug* right now - and I'm guessing your emotions are probably up and down where some days you feel fine and other days you still really miss your ex-boyfriend. Try not to be too hard on yourself about how you are feeling - there really isn't a set time when people do or should get over someone - everyone's experience is different.
If it is the case that your emotions are up and down then perhaps try and think about what kinds of things make you feel happier or more optimistic about life - for example exercise, meeting new people, concentrating on work/study, volunteering. If you keep yourself busy then there's less chance for you to dwell on your past relationship.
On the other hand - if you are feeling low all or the majority of the time then you may find it helps to seek counselling. You could also contact Supportline for confidential telephone support on 020 8554 9004 or email Jo@samaritans.org.
Sometimes we can feel that our friends are putting pressure on us to just 'get over it' and give up trying to support us - often they just don't know what to say - hence why seeking support outside our familiar circles can be a reassuring experience.
Finally have a look at thesite's article on mending a broken heart if you haven't already. Although it might seem like this article is targeted at people who have only just split up - some of the tips on how to cope can still be really valuable further down the line.
Take good care of yourself
me and my ex split up 7 months ago and sometimes i think i'm over him but then i'll have a slight relapse!