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I don't understand...........a bit of a long post, sorry.
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We have recently split up mainly due to the fact he is scared of emotional attachment and intimacy. Ireally want us to get back together but don't know what to do, can anyone give me some advise?
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Not trying to be cynical though, just the way it works sometimes.
i did try to suggest we go slow and if he wanted to have time alone then that was fine as i know he has a lot on his mind but he said no that it was not fair to either of us.
He did say part of him wants us to be together but the other part is telling him to run, he still wants us to be friends and he wants to pop over and do things like put up shelves, have dinner and choose tattoos from a few of my books, but perhaps your right................i just really want to be with him.
Just let him know your there to talk. Maybe in the time apart he may realise how much he misses you and how much he wants to see you again. Try not to get so attached as i have done as it will just be harder and harder to let go if all he wants is to be friends.
Good luck hope it works out for you.
Thanks
Good luck to you too, i will definitely try to give him space. Thanks
yes i think your probably right.
This lets him exactly know: She still wants me AND if I want her too, I can just approach her with it.
Back off for a few days and see how this affected him.
The rest is patience.
thanks i will see how it goes, i have avoided contacting him since we split, i'm just waiting until he is ready to speak/see me.