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Do i tell her or what?
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I've recently split up with my girlfriend of 6 months, but to be honest the relationship was always on the rocks and we always argued. a girl who i am really friendly with i really like, she has a boyfriend at the moment but has been having troubles with him, she has been coming round mine n hanging out with me and generally having a laugh with me, and last week i took her out shopping n cinema, was a good day and to be honest without her my past 2 weeks (after break up) would be hell. Basically when i talk to her its so easy and i feel so comfortable. Do i tell her my feelings for her despite her having a boyfriend or what??? will it scare her away...or will it maybe give a postive effect between us.what you think?
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Maybe drop a subtle hint like; cant bleieve he treats u so badly (or woteva),cos you're such a lovely person?
If you tell her you fancy her (and she doesn't feel the same) she may distance herself from you and then you've lost out too?
Just think very carefully! Good luck.
Just a consideration, mind you. I dont like it when someones in a relationship and entertaining another person, because its not open really.
Best case scenario, she goes out with you and dumps this guy. What if she goes to another guy about you all the time?
you dont wanna end up just being transitional
Well if she i free now, nothing is stopping you anymore, give her some time to cope tho, be her friend and then make your move when you think she has recovered from the break-up. You don't want to take advantage either.
Be around her, be with her, I wouldn't force things too much. I expect you're both quite young, so she won't exactly be suicidal, so don't go in trying to do the "supportive" thing. Mostly because being a supportive friend takes you further away from a girls' pants, not closer to them.
Make her feel specail, you dont have to break the bank to do this tho. Things like walks round the park and picnics are always kinda romantic. And if the weather is bad, have a picnic in you room or something, rug down, basket of food and candles. Could make her laugh and make her think that you would be a fun bf to have.
She wouldn't hang out that much with you if she had still strong hopes in her relationship, otherwise she would be fighting for it.
Comfort her. She was there for you. Tell her that! Tell her, you are thankful for subtly helping you over the break-up and that you are glad that you can casually spend time with her so she forgets about her problems too. Sooner or later she'll realize who's exerted to make her happy and secure, that's where you score. Never ever try to actively break them up tho!!
Nah, I was just joking a bit...but I bet you wouldn't say no if you did get in her pants;)
I'd flirt with her, and see how she reacts. Be a mate, but make sure that you flirt, and let her see you are more interesting than just a friend. If she gives it back as good as she gets I'd say you were on to a winner.
Just see how she is around you. If she's teary and weepy then do support her and be friendly to her, make her feel special again. But don't try and feel her pain, and if she isn't overly fussed about the breakup then don't try and be the supportive man.
Just make sure you keep things a bit flirty and a bit smutty, just to make sure you don't get put in the box marked "like a brother to me".