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Liking a friend?
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I'm sure everyone's had an experience similar to this before. I am hopelessly falling for one of my closest friends(opposite sex of course). We're so perfect for each other that it's almost scary! I am not sure if he likes me or not, but he always calls me 'Bonnie' to his 'Clyde' as he is obsessed with dying in a hail of bullets this week... Don't ask! So... my question to all of you is, have you ever been in a position like this and how did you deal with it? If you're STILL in a position like this, lets form a support group! We get jackets and pogs.
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I don't think most people would be obsessive though, it's just a case of if the feelings aren't returned and you tell him, what it might do to the friendship.
So I guess what I'm saying is that there's no right answer, it can work either way, trust your instinct and if he says no then you will adjust. Promise. In fact, it's almost easier once you have a definite answer.
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falling for a friend
I had a best friend who became scarily possessive...I made it worse by sleeping with him, and in the end our friendship became well n truly fucked. Now I don't speak to him/don't talk on nights out etc. A shame, but it's all part of life experiences.
Do I still get some pogs? :flirt:
IMO, if you aren't 100% sure about how this guy feels don't say anything to him about your feelings until you are :yes:
Just try flirting with him some more and see how he responds.
I recently had sex with one of my best friends. She lives far away and we kinda feel for each other. But 1200km between one working lady and one studying guy (me) is probably not gonna work.
I don't see a prob in your situation: you fall for him, he likes you.
Go for it. you'd be dumb if not, because those are the very best relationships. you will still be able to talk so very open, so many conflicts will be avoided, and problems usually quickly expunged. You both feel very comfortable in each others vicinity so you can combine this "hanging out" you did before and add the holding hands/kiss/sex.
Best to happen to you.
But the best relationships can be the ones that start from friendship IMO.
It can get very confusing when you're in the middle of it. Just be careful but if you don't find out one way or the other you'll always wonder "what if...?". Just give yourself time to work out your approach and how you can recover from it if the answer is "no".
Good luck
I know two people like this. They both fancied me, but wouldn't leave me alone even when I made it clear that I wasn't interested in either of them. Then one of them asked me for sex. :rolleyes: