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Sex in a relationship
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If you had satisfying sex in a relationship for example, but the girl doesn't have orgasms, and shes never had one at all even when trying herself (but she enjoys herself), is it ok to not worry about and just enjoy the sex you have? Some girls seem to find it quite easy and it seems like theres peer pressure almost that if you're not having them then theres something wrong. But in the example, the sex life is fantastic, after a session both people are completely sexed out and just croak 'oh my god that was so good' etc.
Just asking for my example of a friend
Just asking for my example of a friend
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For some people sex is important in a relationship, for others it doesn't matter. IMO sex shouldn't matter if love is there and can still be enjoyable without orgasms. But then again, I say that but never have been confronted to it. Also I have heard of women that didn't get orgasms and it never stop them from being a relationship or being happy either. But as I said depends on people, so women would leave someone if they don't get there. If they do, I tink they probably didn't love the guy that much.
me?
in the example, the girl does masturbate and it stops her feeling horny but she doesnt orgasm as such, she just kind of gets a nice feeling and stops.
The guy in the example tries, oh how he tries, but nothing seems to be perfect. After attempting to listen and communicate that had got so far, by reading information on the net he can pleasure her, and she enjoys it, still no climax. This is going to sound funny, but example girl finds it 'ticklish' if its too direct / intense so maybe theres some stuff left to develop? I dont know what to tell the guy, myself
http://www.clitical.com/sex-tutorials/oral-sex/cunnillingus.php
http://www.clitical.com/sex-tutorials/oral-sex/advanced-cunnillingus.php
Always remember finding the g-spot will help a lot, it's not just about the clitoris.
done that, but in my example its still 'too intense', and so toning it down isnt intense enough, it just feels really nice.
well if it is too intense don't do the g-spot then and just concentrate on clitoris only... Maybe try going slowly to start with and not rush to much... Also do not just lick, but more suck... Or try rolling your tongue around it, like you were french kissing it...
im sure with time they'll sort it out
over a year
but both first relationships so...
when using his tongue he should stimulate the area around the clit and not directly on it in a circular motion.
or do it diectly on it until she says its getting to intense and then he should change the movement of his tongue or move it to the side slightly but keep carrying on. it may be that she just needs to get past that certain point for it to happen.
they are fuckin awesome :thumb:
http://www.annsummers.com/single.asp?gid=7&cat=2&pid=3146
:yes: ....
Well was going to suggest a vibrator, but if it is too intense I suggest a "lighter" model that that one... That one is hardcore
Nah it doesn't need to be. It has lots of different settings you know.
It's fuckin cool my mate gave it to me for my birthday a few weeks ago and I haven't looked back :cool:
The length thing means you can get to your g-spot really easily and you'll (she'll) be amazed how quick it is