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My sisters right to privacy?
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Ok, I've been suspecting my sister has gotten onto some trouble. The police have been around to interview her more than once, and lots of other weird things going on.
So whether this was wrong or not, I went into her room and went through her paperwork. I found some pretty serious stuff.
I'm not really sure what to do next. I'm considering telling my family, but obviously that might damage mine and my sister relationship. But the fact is, we've never gotton on with each other, and since we are both pretty much adults now, this might be one of those life changing arguments.
So whether this was wrong or not, I went into her room and went through her paperwork. I found some pretty serious stuff.
I'm not really sure what to do next. I'm considering telling my family, but obviously that might damage mine and my sister relationship. But the fact is, we've never gotton on with each other, and since we are both pretty much adults now, this might be one of those life changing arguments.
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How would you feel if the situation was reversed?
Agreed, you can't just blag to the family. You gotta try and talk to her first.....
If the situation was reversed I would find it really difficult to talk to my family. Atleast if someone thought I was acting odd and that, then went through my stuff and found out about my problem, it would probably be a great relief.
You would just be causing trouble by blabbing. Just let her know youare there for her if she needs it and that she doesn't have to be alone.
And don't go in her room again.
Hmm.. I think you should talk to her and tell her you're worried, it sounds pretty serious she might be grateful to have someone to talk to about it. At least find out the details before telling your parents.
Tell her you know what she's been up to, and if she doesn't come clean about it then you will.
i found out that my sister has been making herself sick in an attempt to lose weight on saturday (she ate a bagel then went straight to toilet - i had a suspicion and followed her and listened to her throw it up - then again with dinner)
told my dad pretty pronto who then proceeded to have a "chat" with her. she is now not speaking to me. but i know she will get over it soon and everything will be ok again. im glad i told
I agree - let's face it, if she's hiding it from everyone by making up other reasons as to why the police are interviewing her etc, then she's hardly going to 'fess up. Plus, depending on how serious a SHOOTING is (it's not something like your sister stealing sweets or cheating on her boyfriend), I think that your parents have a right to know - what if there actually was a shooting and somebody's been seriously injured here? I think any right to privacy there goes out of the window.
Saying that, she may be innocent - and it's difficult for you to presume otherwise if you haven't spoken to her and have only seen some paperwork, which may be purely allegatory - telling your parents before getting the full facts from her may cause more problems, if she's wrongly accused.