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Confusion RE: Boyfriend
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Well, I've been going out with this guy for about 3 weeks now. He is really sweet and seems totally into me, but I am not sure if he is for me. We were pretty good friends before this, and I'm afraid that breaking up with him would destroy the relationship we had prior. I don't want to lead him on anymore either, so I'm really, totally, completely confused as to what I should do. To dump, or not to dump? That is the question. Whether 'tis nobler in the mind to suffer the slings and arrows of a relationship I'm not really into... Or to take arms against a sea of troubles, and by opposing end them?
Sorry about that little Hamlet ramble... In closing: Help!
Sorry about that little Hamlet ramble... In closing: Help!
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Well there's no way you can stay in a relationship you don't want to be in, it just won't work and if you carry this on, you'll only hurt him even more in the end. You just gotta break the news to him gently, explain that you never meant to hurt him or lead him along and tell him you hope you can still be friends. Don't be surprised if he's a bit angry or hurt at first, but i'm pretty sure he'll probably come round in time.....
Just be honust with him.
Do you fancy the boy?
If you do, you're alright. If you don't, you're not. You can't have a relationship without sex.
Why do you immediately think about the ending? Are you scared to commit to this boy? You might split up and lose his friendship, but you might not- you might end up with him forever.
You need to work out if you're scared of commitment. Have you been hurt before? If you're not scared of a relationship, do you find the boy sexually attractive?