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Venting anger/violent feelings.
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Sorry.. wasn't really sure where to post this.
I've just had a row with my boyfriend and I'm feeling REALLY angry right now. I just blew up in his face and had a crying tantrum on the school bus home (:no: how embarrassing), and the fact he didn't have much of a reaction, twisted my insides further. Now hes fucked off into town to go clubbing with his mates later, when all I wanna do is shout at him for 3 hours. He didn't do anything wrong in a malicious way, I just got fed up with his insensitivety. And hes being lying a lot to save his neck. Doesn't really help that I'm pre-menstrual either.
Trouble is, everytime I get upset, or angry, I get incredibly violent, destructive feelings towards the aggravator that I find really hard to control. I already almost smashed the porch windows in cause I couldn't find my key to get into the house 20 mins ago. Its like I want to destroy just about anything I can get my hands on, including his face, his belongings, our relationship. Thankfully, I stopped myself saying anything I'll really regret. Cause deep down I love him to bits, and I don't want to hurt his cute lil monkeyness. But on the otherside, I want to make him feel as shit as I feel, and realise how much what hes done has affected me.
How can I vent my anger?!
I've just had a row with my boyfriend and I'm feeling REALLY angry right now. I just blew up in his face and had a crying tantrum on the school bus home (:no: how embarrassing), and the fact he didn't have much of a reaction, twisted my insides further. Now hes fucked off into town to go clubbing with his mates later, when all I wanna do is shout at him for 3 hours. He didn't do anything wrong in a malicious way, I just got fed up with his insensitivety. And hes being lying a lot to save his neck. Doesn't really help that I'm pre-menstrual either.
Trouble is, everytime I get upset, or angry, I get incredibly violent, destructive feelings towards the aggravator that I find really hard to control. I already almost smashed the porch windows in cause I couldn't find my key to get into the house 20 mins ago. Its like I want to destroy just about anything I can get my hands on, including his face, his belongings, our relationship. Thankfully, I stopped myself saying anything I'll really regret. Cause deep down I love him to bits, and I don't want to hurt his cute lil monkeyness. But on the otherside, I want to make him feel as shit as I feel, and realise how much what hes done has affected me.
How can I vent my anger?!
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Also Agnus Castus is a supplement thats supposed to reduce PMS symptoms in 50% of women, but i havent tried that one myself. you can get it in Holland and Barrett though. Definitely try the evening primrose oil tho.
You have to remember though that everything is gonna be a bit blown out of proportion at the moment, so its probably best to lie low and its proibably not the right time for an argument with your bf. Do you feel this badly towards him the rest of the month?
Plus I'm going to a huge party tonight and he's not.. so he might be secretly worried about that. But hes going to a club I can't get into, so.. bah.
I still wanna ring him up and tell him what a completely disgusting creature he is, for not dropping to his knees and begging for my forgiveness heh.
I think I'll have a hot bath. Don't think I can do much damage in there .
Its not as if hes lying about major things, like where hes been etc. Its just if he says something and it upsets me, he'll lie to patch things up, or shut me up. He also lies about his finances to me. I'd prefer him to be honest and talk things through with me.
but i will say its not that good to be in a relationship like this if you have security issues
He's a good lad really. The problem is, though it sounds like I should be glad of this, he cares too much about me being happy, rather than his own enjoyment, and that makes me feel guilty. Hes always doing things for me, and, like I said, he'll be dishonest if it means that I won't get upset. Its an underlying issue that we need to sort out.
I don't worry too much about our relationship - I mean, I'm 15, he's 17.. we may be in love, and we've been together a year and a half, but ultimately it's never gonna last forever, at our age. The most important thing is to have fun together now, not the future, marriage etc heh.
but to me that'd be a bit of a scary thought.
they would still be together now 20 years on if he was still alive
i cant imagine being with anyone forever, forever is such a long time,
i think you need to talk to him about why he lies and tell him that you would rather know the truth even if he thinks it would upset you, afterall how are you ment to trust him when it comes to the big things if he cant even tell you the truth over little things?