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losing his erection
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my boyfriend loses his erection as soon as he puts on a condom, weve tried to get it back up once the condoms on but it doesnt last more than 20 seconds. hes fine without them but i dont want to do anything without using protection, im on th epill but theres issues with STIs that the pill doesnt protect you from.
has anyone else experienced this problem and what did you do to solve it because i really cant think of a way we can get round this except having unprotected sex.
has anyone else experienced this problem and what did you do to solve it because i really cant think of a way we can get round this except having unprotected sex.
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good luck
Its worth a try anyway :thumb:
There's also a chance that you're using the wrong sort of condoms. I mean are they too small? Of course condoms are supposed to be tight but if they're REALLY tight as in they won't even go on without physical pain then only bad can come of it.
Get thinner ones too. If you use thicker condoms then there's less feeling which is going to affect how hard he is.
But like you said, if you're going out with each other, hopefully not sleeping with anyone behind each other's backs and neither of you are needle/drug users then get a quick STD check, get the clear, pop the pill and BOOM BOOM BOOM, it's happy holidays from then on.
There's a knack to putting condoms on, and if you don't get it quite right it can cause his little soldier to go all floppy quite quickly. I had a bit of bother like that when I was still inexperienced with condoms.
Make putting the condom on part of the foreplay- perhaps you could roll it onto him whilst you play with him. It should help to keep it hard, as he will be focusing on you playing with him, not the condom going on.
Like randomgirl says, if you trust this boy to stay monogamous, you could go and get tested for STIs so that you could ditch the rubbers. But obviously don't feel pressured into not using them if you'd rather have that extra protection.
This sounds a good idea. Could always give it a go!
If NOTHING seems to work though then its probably best getting tested. Least you'll know and will be able to have sex with no worry and no condoms!
a bit unfair to suggest that someone having problems in that area isn't a real man.
why not go together and get tested for sti's/std's?
yep, i'd go for this too.
I had to use condoms for a while and I absolutely hated it, it really messed me around and no matter what I tried it was never as good as when I didn't use them. It got to the point where I just couldn't be bothered to have sex anymore because it just didn't feel good - this of course led to me not getting aroused.
If this is the case for your boyfreind then I would strongly suggest getting checked out and then not using them when you get the all clear (or the no news!! :rolleyes: ). As long as neither of you is sleeping around and you're on the pill then is seems like the best choice.
Haha.
ITA with this entire post, some good advice.
*downs ten beers, breaks bottle over head and goes hunting*
But yeah, Briggi knows where it's at.
THREE CHEERS FOR STRONG ERECTIONS!!1! :yippe: