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Need help convincing someone to confess before the situation explodes!
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My friend's girlfriend is moving here (he'd moved and she's now going to follow) but he has been cheating on her for the past four months.
A lot of people here know and they all want to let the secret "slip" accidently and get the whole thing out.
Obviously, this would break the girl's soul. He needs to tell her what has been going on and if he wants to patch things up, then good.
I just think that allowing her to move here and her learning the truth after dropping everything and quitting her job is almost cruel - something I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy. He has to tell her, but how to get through to him?
I've set up a dinner date with him next week, but I'm not sure what to say without it sounding like intervention.
People have told me that he is a bad person and I shouldn't be friends with people like that. But he is my best friend and I love him more than anything. I have to talk some sense into him before he hurts himself and her very badly.
Please help.
A lot of people here know and they all want to let the secret "slip" accidently and get the whole thing out.
Obviously, this would break the girl's soul. He needs to tell her what has been going on and if he wants to patch things up, then good.
I just think that allowing her to move here and her learning the truth after dropping everything and quitting her job is almost cruel - something I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy. He has to tell her, but how to get through to him?
I've set up a dinner date with him next week, but I'm not sure what to say without it sounding like intervention.
People have told me that he is a bad person and I shouldn't be friends with people like that. But he is my best friend and I love him more than anything. I have to talk some sense into him before he hurts himself and her very badly.
Please help.
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Unless I'm being particularly suspicious and have read things wrong, it sounds to me as if there is an ulterior motive here...
If he has been cheating on her for months, then the girlfriend should know - either from him or from you. Although who he's been cheating with may explain a few things here - it seems odd that you love him more than anything yet he's a cheat?
Excuse my confusion, it's late
By letting him know what you think, but then doing nothing, you can at least be there to support her if/when she does find out.
I myself would be totally broken if I found out someone cheated on me AFTER I moved for them. :no: Gotta feel sorry for this girl.
I agree that you have to tell him to tell her; and if he won't that you'll tell her yourself (and make good on that threat).
I feel for you, being in this situation. But my heart goes out to this girl.