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Kind of a dissapointment. My girlfriend and I have had sex a grand total of 5 times.. We both lost our viginities to eachother. So the problem is.. My girlfriend can't feel anything. It takes her so long to get close to orgasming. She's gotten close to orgasming, but the second she gets close, mine happens and I can't keep going to make hers happen.
:mad: it's so frustrating. I want it to happen, i feel like i'm using her and/or that i'm terrible at sex. :mad:
so!
1. Is it normal for a girl to not feel much the first few times? (each time has been rather spaced apart time wise, but we've gotten 3 in the past 3 weeks..)
2. Any things I can do to make it feel better? I try to play the outside.. We've used lubrication and stuff too..
3. DOUBLE YOU TEA EFF!
:mad: it's so frustrating. I want it to happen, i feel like i'm using her and/or that i'm terrible at sex. :mad:
so!
1. Is it normal for a girl to not feel much the first few times? (each time has been rather spaced apart time wise, but we've gotten 3 in the past 3 weeks..)
2. Any things I can do to make it feel better? I try to play the outside.. We've used lubrication and stuff too..
3. DOUBLE YOU TEA EFF!
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that's what your tongue's for
It took me far more than five times of having sex from losing my virginity to having an orgasm from sex. It's just more difficult for women especially in the early days. It sounds like you are doing all the right things (like using lubrication etc) and you obviously really care about her else you wouldn't bother posting this.
Keep practising... it'll happen eventually. Don't put too much pressure on her to have an orgasm though as this won't help her.
anyway in my case atleast practice made perfect
I'm not for oral and she wouldn't let me do it even if i was, so thats out.
I've never been very good at the fingering thing..(yeah i know, our sex life is incredible.. :rolleyes: ) Any suggestions there? speed, what kind of motion..
She said she's gotten close, so we can't be that far off!
This will happen!! and yes, i care alot about her
As for fingering I would recommend that you ask her how she would like it, what she wants you to do etc.
Has she ever let you go down on her? Seems weird to me that a girl wouldnt want to recieve it
Perhaps she lacks the confidence and thinks that you would find her to be unclean in some way, maybe suggesting that you do it to help her reach orgasm.
So i'll have a talk with her about it haha. thanks for all of your guys' help
So it did happen after we had sexxed lol. she may come round to it, but you dont wanna so i guess it dont matter hehe