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Boyfriend has a baby
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Hey everyone!!
Hope you're all keeping well
Well, I've been goin out with my bf for bout 5 months now, when i first met him, he told me that a girl he had a one night stand with was pregnant by him. I didn't think bout it too much, just took each day as it came n didnt worry bout it too much. We got really close and by the time the baby was born (2 months ago) we were gettin fairly serious.
The thing is the girl who had his baby is really good lookin and she still really fancies him. He's told me loads of times that he has no feelings for her at all and that he loves me. He's crazy about the baby and loves her more than anything, it just upsets me that he has to be in contact with the mother all the time, she doesn't let him see the baby without her there yet so he basically sees her most days and is textin or on the phone to her everyday to see how the baby is.
Everything was fine at the start, but i'm slowly startin to feel abit left out, I'm jus can't wait until they sort out days of when he can have the baby on his own, i really wanna make a go of this relationship and i wanna get to know his baby too. I do understand how the mother feels, and i know she prob hates the fact of another woman with her baby.....
Just wondering if anyone is in the same position as me and curious to see if things are workin out? or is there anyone in the position of the baby's mother?
I'm interested in everyone's views on this please!
Sorry for makin this so long.....didnt know how to shorten it!
Thanks!
Sweetiebabe Xx
Hope you're all keeping well
Well, I've been goin out with my bf for bout 5 months now, when i first met him, he told me that a girl he had a one night stand with was pregnant by him. I didn't think bout it too much, just took each day as it came n didnt worry bout it too much. We got really close and by the time the baby was born (2 months ago) we were gettin fairly serious.
The thing is the girl who had his baby is really good lookin and she still really fancies him. He's told me loads of times that he has no feelings for her at all and that he loves me. He's crazy about the baby and loves her more than anything, it just upsets me that he has to be in contact with the mother all the time, she doesn't let him see the baby without her there yet so he basically sees her most days and is textin or on the phone to her everyday to see how the baby is.
Everything was fine at the start, but i'm slowly startin to feel abit left out, I'm jus can't wait until they sort out days of when he can have the baby on his own, i really wanna make a go of this relationship and i wanna get to know his baby too. I do understand how the mother feels, and i know she prob hates the fact of another woman with her baby.....
Just wondering if anyone is in the same position as me and curious to see if things are workin out? or is there anyone in the position of the baby's mother?
I'm interested in everyone's views on this please!
Sorry for makin this so long.....didnt know how to shorten it!
Thanks!
Sweetiebabe Xx
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You've got an important job too and with trust from all sides I'm sure it'll work out great. x
You just godda put yourself in her shoes, what would you do if your baby's father had a new woman??
Hope it goes well.