If you need urgent support, call 999 or go to your nearest A&E. To contact our Crisis Messenger (open 24/7) text THEMIX to 85258.
Options
I'm scared of ever going into another relationship...
BillieTheBot
Posts: 8,721 Bot
...because everytime I do, I end up fucked up. :crying:
Why do break ups always hurt?
I've been split up from my ex for 3/4 months now and despite me being the one stopping us from getting back together(as he wanted us to sort things out), I'm now the one wanting to get back with him :banghead:
Is it normal to miss exes like I am or am I just some fuckin weirdo?
I mean, deep down, I know we shouldn't be together but for the past couple of weeks, I've been really missing him and thinking about everything we had together.
I know I will get over him as I have other exes but arrrrrgggghhh, I come out of every relationship messed up.
Le sigh.
Sorry just had to rant this somewhere.
I'm scared of ever going into another relationship again because every relationship I come out of, I hurt.
Is there any nice guys out there that will treat me the way I want to be treated? Is there any guys out there that will make me happy? Will I ever meet another guy or have I just thrown away something special?
And this whole valentines thing is doing my head in at the moment and really not helping
Why do break ups always hurt?
I've been split up from my ex for 3/4 months now and despite me being the one stopping us from getting back together(as he wanted us to sort things out), I'm now the one wanting to get back with him :banghead:
Is it normal to miss exes like I am or am I just some fuckin weirdo?
I mean, deep down, I know we shouldn't be together but for the past couple of weeks, I've been really missing him and thinking about everything we had together.
I know I will get over him as I have other exes but arrrrrgggghhh, I come out of every relationship messed up.
Le sigh.
Sorry just had to rant this somewhere.
I'm scared of ever going into another relationship again because every relationship I come out of, I hurt.
Is there any nice guys out there that will treat me the way I want to be treated? Is there any guys out there that will make me happy? Will I ever meet another guy or have I just thrown away something special?
And this whole valentines thing is doing my head in at the moment and really not helping
Beep boop. I'm a bot.
0
Comments
Erm I'm sure there are...don't want to sound like a prat but relationships are more than just you. Those arent the questions you should be asking yourself.
You should be asking questions like...am I ready for a relationship where we'll treat each other equally. Can I make another guy happy so he'll make me happy?
As for ever meeting another guy, I assure you that you will. Then again, even if you didn't, it wouldn't be worth retreating into a bad relationship just to be with someone.
Oh, you're not a weirdo for missing your ex, he was a big part of your life for a long time. I still miss my ex, despite all his obvious flaws and the fact that he cheated, so if you're weird then I'm psychotic. Feel better, you're going to be fine!
honestly, it's not all bad being single, if you feel the need to be in a relationship all the time its a sign of insecurity tbh, and it can be taken advantage of. you need to stand on your own two feet before you go running into another guys arms...you'll handle it better then.
Then again, he comes on this site so he will only read it anyway, sigh.
I want to remain friends with him but I'm finding it very hard. I've never managed to stay friends with exes but my ex was my best friend for 3 years. I don't want to throw our friendship away as well so how do I stop seeing him more than that?
but all due respect stace, it didn't do you any good being with him because he played with your head. i hope you realise because we're all screaming it at you! it would be easiest to not have contact in the end....it sounds crazy but it is!
To give you some faith... I'd been in relationships from hell. I'd had everything from text message dumpers, to cheaters, and even as far as abusers :eek2: All within two years....
When another boyfriend dumped me, I was at work the next day and I was taken pity on by the lads i was working with. It kinda became apparent how me and Chris, one of the lads clicked, and we've been together since. We have our moments... everyone does.... but we had one of our moments jsut the other night, and yet I've just spent half an hour doodling and sticking extra presents he doesn't know about into his valentines card....
And as for Valentines....
Valentines isn't just for couples you know. It's a day for reminding the people you love, that you love them.
Last year, despite having Chris, I actually spent as much money on my two best friends. I got them both a Valentines Card and present, and spent the afternoon with them. I bet if you did somehting similar you'd have a blast
it obviously ended for a reason so perhaps you should leave it.
As said before, needing to be in a relationship can be a sign of insecurities. You have to work out of it is the guy that you want, or the feeling you get from being in a relationship.
You also have to figure out whether the reason you broke up with him is still valid. If there was something missing, then the chances are it won't suddenly re-appear.
Of course you'll find someone decent. The problem is, when you're looking you'll never find them. The best relationships seem to start out from rather unexpected places - it'll hit you and knock you off your feet .
Will you be my Valentine? :thumb:
Anyway, I've only been through one break-up, and it hurt like hell. I'd struggle to get into another relationship. What I would say though is, don't rush into anything new, look before you leap.
fucking hell.
stargalaxy stop taking things so personally.
all i'm saying is if you think it's too commercialised, make a card or something instead of buying one.
Woohoo!
If only everyone else in this thread were so easy to please .
My advise is go out there have fun, go out with friends, family etc... just enjoy yourself for awhile. then you can start looking entering another relationship when your comfy with yourself. and who know Mr right might be just round the corner.
in the mean time heres a BIG HUG for you.
Not true. Not even one little bit true.
Valentines Day is what you make it. Simple as.
I had a friend who celebrated anti-valentine's day each year. She would go to a scary film and go out and get pissed. Simple as. She looked forward to her girly night each year and even met her partner doing this!
And if you don't like Valentine's Day then ignore it. Simple as. It is easy enough to do.
But in regards to the OP ...
You *know* you did the right thing. I think what you are missing is not your ex but the whole concept of being in a relationship which is something you yourself need to get over.
Yep i agree with you (and the rest about valentines day aswell ) I know it's hard it it may even take longer than you hope or expect but there is life afterwards, and so much fun out there for you to be having and so many potential new guys for you to meet, from reading what you put on these boards it always sounded like he treated you like crap and towards the end you weren't truley happy, just putting up with it so to speak.
Just make sure you keep yourself busy, and keep your options open don't turn down oppurtunitys to go out and what not, have some fun being you for a little while