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Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
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so i was wondering if this has ever happened to any of you. i was wanking it a bit ago and came across a series of short clips. the girl looked very very similar to my gf. i downloaded the movies and watched them. she even seems to sound like my gf a bit. it scared me very badly. i lost my erection and didn't feel liking wanking anymore and felt a bit sick to my stomach and tried to watch tv and go to bed. but i can't. i know it isn't her. i know her well enough to know that she wouldn't ever do anything like that, and especially while we were together. but still just the fact of seeing some girl that looks and sounds so much like her was very disturbing. if this has happened to you share your experiences.

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    you lost your erection because she looked like your girlfriend?

    doesnt say much for how much you fancy your gf.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    well it just made me think of her with somebody else. that's all. i'm guessing if you were masturbating and saw a guy that looked alot like your bf having sex with somebody else you wouldn't be very arroused.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I_wear_girl_pants wrote:
    well it just made me think of her with somebody else. that's all. i'm guessing if you were masturbating and saw a guy that looked alot like your bf having sex with somebody else you wouldn't be very arroused.
    well I actually fancy my boyfriend and like the way he looks, so I think if someone looked like him, then chances are, if someone looked like him, id think they were attractive too. If you know its not your girlfriend, then im really struggling to see the issue. I can imagine maybe being slightly weird, but hey ho.
    It was only a wank anyway, its not like you have to explain to the computer screen that youre sorry you lost your erection.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    this is true. i'm just being silly i guess.

    actually. i've given it some serious thought and i think i may have a jealousy/paranoia issue. i once saw some guys comment on her myspace and to myself i thought,"who the fuck is that guy" and other things like that. we do live 500 miles away and i haven't seen her in 6 months so that could be part of it. but i need to stop thinking like this.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Well, its said that we all have doubles somewhere on the earth at any given time so its quite probable that all of us might find someone similar to someone we know on a porn site.

    I wasn't too sure if you were somehow uncertain whether it was ACTUALLY your girlfriend ... if it isn't, you probably are working yourself up over nothing ..
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    ha, you're right. i never thought about that. yeah, just a double.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    id probably be feeling weird and insecure if i hadnt seen my boyf for 6months too.
    maybe make a video next time you see her, so youve got somethign real to watch to make the time go quicker
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    ha, i considered it. but i don't think it's a good idea. bad things always end up happening when people record themselves having sex. somebody that's not supposed to see it always does or somebody gets blackmailed for it. and my gf would almost certainly not agree to it. plus i've heard it's not pleasant to watch oneself having sex.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    lol, depends how likely you think you are to stay together, and if youre not planning on that, then whats the point of having such a long distance erratic relationship anyway?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    we're planning on staying together. on march 13th it will have been 2 years since our first conversation. people often ask how we do it. and to be honest i'm not sure. we are just determined to make it work. we've only spent 3 weeks total together and we usually don't see each other for 2-3 months at a time. i'm sure though that this time around will make or break us. i'm going to her house for a whole month. and if things do end up working out then we'll have to figure out what to do next. i'm guessing i'll probably end up moving there. we had decided to take a break a bit ago because we thought it might be better to get back together later when we were better situated. but that only lasted for a day because neither of us could stand the thought of being with somebody else. but yeah, we're all each other has pretty much so that's why we've made this work so far. i'm rambling, but i just thought i'd give a good explanation.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I_wear_girl_pants wrote:
    so i was wondering if this has ever happened to any of you. i was wanking it a bit ago and came across a series of short clips. the girl looked very very similar to my gf. i downloaded the movies and watched them. she even seems to sound like my gf a bit. it scared me very badly. i lost my erection and didn't feel liking wanking anymore and felt a bit sick to my stomach and tried to watch tv and go to bed. but i can't. i know it isn't her. i know her well enough to know that she wouldn't ever do anything like that, and especially while we were together. but still just the fact of seeing some girl that looks and sounds so much like her was very disturbing. if this has happened to you share your experiences.


    It would freak me out a bit too. No worries to have tho.
    Losing you erection is just cos you felt weird and the exitation was gone
    cos your mind was not 100% percent into it.
    It's just a bit of paranoia... No big deal...
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    If it looked like your gf and also sounded like her, are you 100% its not her?
    i'd imagine its probably not as the chances of you stumbling accross it amongst the millions of porn pages on the t'internet are veery slim.
    I can imagine just how you feel though and something like that would have bothered me deeply and no doubt cast doubts into my mind. all you can do is forget about it though and move on.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    yeah, i know it's not her. there were some differences that i could point out. and i told her about it and she laughed and said she wants to see the clips. i'm gonna show her later tonight. but yeah, it was pretty creepy.
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