Broken Heart

Former Member · February 2006

to be honest, things are easier if you dont see each other for a bit and dont talk too much otherwise you are just gonna keep hurting if you still want him and know you cant have him

Former Member · February 2006

Former Member · February 2006

He sounds like a muppet.

'There are things I cant stand about you....Hey can we still sleep together?'

Sorry for sounding harsh.

Former Member · February 2006

I'd give it time, break off all contact and when you are truly feeling fine, then you can decide if you want to be friends or not.

Staying in contact is just prolonging the agony, and sleeping together even if you've split up doesn't sound like a good plan at all. Stopping cold turkey is a bitch to go through, but the alternative is every bit as painful and I rekcon it slows the healing process.

Former Member · February 2006

"he also said that we should still sleep together as neither of us could handle each other sleeping with others."
That's a guaranteed way to make it even more difficult for you to get over him.

Former Member · February 2006

sleeping with someone you care for will only keep you more strongly attached to him. its good to stay friends if you can handle it, but it can be really painful, especially if he seems to move on faster than you- if he got with someone while you were still crazy about him it would hurt like hell, right? and if you keep socialising with him as a habit, it will be harder to put distance between you to avoid that hurt. it sounds to me like he doesn't know what he wants- if he wants you sexually then he should be willing to work at a relationship with you (as sex is obviously not casual in your relationship) tell him that if you cant be together then that means you wont be together, give yourself some space, seek refuge in your other friendships, and dont sleep with him to help you over him- it would feel great at the time, but would hurt so much more afterwards.
good luck

Former Member · February 2006

Good lord, it sounds like this chap has never broken up with someone amicably before.

I'd break ties, love. It'll be hard as hell, but you seriously cannot go on dangling for him. He knows you're vulnerable and will want to go back to him, but he wants it both ways and that shit just won't fly.

Ugh, what a twat. I hate guys like that. Leading us into false pretences then expecting us to do eeeeeeeeeverything THEY want even after our hearts are stamped, beaten up, ripped apart and shat on. PLANKS.

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Yes, so I'd steer clear. Any guy who says he can't stand you isn't worth your time my lil' creamcake. I wouldn't want to wait for anyone who didn't want me for me, and not when it's just convenient for them. I need someone who'll be there thick and thin and still think I'm worth it past all the thick and thin. Everyone deserves that. Find someone like that.

Former Member · February 2006

1983 wrote:

Good lord, it sounds like this chap has never broken up with someone amicably before.

I'd break ties, love. It'll be hard as hell, but you seriously cannot go on dangling for him. He knows you're vulnerable and will want to go back to him, but he wants it both ways and that shit just won't fly.

Ugh, what a twat. I hate guys like that. Leading us into false pretences then expecting us to do eeeeeeeeeverything THEY want even after our hearts are stamped, beaten up, ripped apart and shat on. PLANKS.

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Yes, so I'd steer clear. Any guy who says he can't stand you isn't worth your time my lil' creamcake. I wouldn't want to wait for anyone who didn't want me for me, and not when it's just convenient for them. I need someone who'll be there thick and thin and still think I'm worth it past all the thick and thin. Everyone deserves that. Find someone like that.

Brilliant advice as always becky

Former Member · February 2006

Basic Instinct wrote:

Brilliant advice as always becky

Ach aye, love.

Former Member · February 2006

I think he is taking the piss out of you...he is using you if he can dump you then just still sleep with you...sorry if this upsets, just my opinion

Former Member · February 2006

Charlie84 wrote:

he also said that we should still sleep together as neither of us could handle each other sleeping with others.

What? Please dont tell me your falling for that?! That taking the figgin' piss.

He is using you.

For sex.

Former Member · February 2006

Blah wrote:

What? Please dont tell me your falling for that?! That taking the figgin' piss.

He is using you.

For sex.

:yes: Sorry love, is true tho

Former Member · February 2006

!!!

Former Member · February 2006

Good attitude, go you! My ex did a similar thing when we broke up, he wanted to stay friends and keep on sleeping together, I just thought "Hang on, so which part of the relationship don't you want any more?" We did stay friends and being able to go round and see him whenever I wanted really helped me get over him, because it wasn't complete 'cold turkey'. The thing that helped me most though was never refusing an invitation from my friends to do anything, because the more I went out with them, the more I realised I didn't need my ex to have a great time. Hang in there and it will get better, you just need to give it time.

Former Member · February 2006

Former Member · February 2006

you'll get through this in time, although i know it's not easy! perhaps you'll even be good friends one day, but it may take awhile. in the meantime, distract yourself with your studies and other real friends and live your life. i think you can do much better!

Former Member · February 2006

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