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why are guys so confusing?
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met a fella online few months ago, traded numbers, talked a hell of a lot, became close and talked about taking it further than friendship. i ask to meet, he always has other plans, then apologises for not treating me right....this circle continues and things go well again then he stops talking for ages and im really just wondering the easiest way to either get everything sorted or just end it where it is (which i think is probably the best thign to do only im afraid to cos it means i have to start getting close to someone again....)
i know that was confusing but i cant make it any clearer...well, maybe i can but if you make sense out of it...let me know what to do....or ask some questions and ill try to clarify it for you. thanks everyone..i know im horrible sometimes...thanks again
i know that was confusing but i cant make it any clearer...well, maybe i can but if you make sense out of it...let me know what to do....or ask some questions and ill try to clarify it for you. thanks everyone..i know im horrible sometimes...thanks again
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have you considered that he has a girlfriend? (even if he tells you he hasnt)
That's the harsh reality of the situation. I'd suggest looking for someone else through social circles or school etc.
Guys aren't confusing at all. If he says no, he isn't interested. Guys generally don't use double-speak like women (or politicians) do - anything said can be taken for its literal meaning.
Oh I see, I thought it was more date meeting...
Also I know there is some man that just forgot or always change their plan, I can be like that, also never done it if it was to meet up a girl i fancy, but I have some mates that do so, even when they are already in a relationship with the girl...
All I am thinking is, if it start like that and he fancy you, what will it be if he actually have a relationship with you, cos seems like he isn't doing much effort to meet you and usualy you get more attention before being the relationship.
Personaly as a guy, if I fancy a girl, I'll be there to meet her every chance i get... And I think most of us do...
Well I'd say he could be keeping you on hold. See what happens with other girls first and and if he's left without a bird for a while then you're his back-up.
Or maybe he just finds the idea of going out with someone he's met on the net is just not something he's comfortable with.
Perhaps a combination of both. So, whichever it is, you're best off forgetting it imho.