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Why Cheat?
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Iv always wondered why people cheat on their GF/BF's i mean if you want to sleep with other people then you should stay single.
If you have cheated in the past what were your reasons, was you unhappy in the relationship or what, what made you cheat?
If you have cheated in the past what were your reasons, was you unhappy in the relationship or what, what made you cheat?
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Yeah iv been cheated on before too, i just didnt see the point, was something wrong with me or what? But i mean if you love your GF your not gonna cheat on her right, and to be in that position to cheat or stop it you must have been leading the girl on in the first place.
As for people in relationships who cheat, well, sometimes its because the relationship is long distance, as in, their partner works away and isnt around so they go out and fuck someone else they know or who ever comes along. Other times they cheat with their close friends because the opportunity to have sex came up and because they are friends it "just happens." Other people are just spiteful nasty selfish cunts who do it to show off they can!
I haven't had that problem, but God help anyone that does.
Looking back I cheated at times when he, and the relationship we had, made me feel insecure and unattractive, and when guys showed a genuine interest in me.
I thought I loved my bf at the time...but yet a lot of things are so much clearer after a relationship ends. I didn't feel guilty about it at the time, and never really have. My bf never found out about any of the 3 guys i pulled whilst we were together, and to be honest they boosted my confidence when with him.
Most of the time the things he said to me about his nights out lead me to believe he was such a stud girls were throwing themselves at him all the time and i guess id convinced myself he was probably doing the same.
Wasn't a very healthy relationship at all.
My current boyfriend however is everything my first was not, he's so much more a part of my life, and a true friend and i *know* we are in love, hurting him would kill me. I have never come close to cheating on him, and there have been more opportunities in the last three year then in the 11 months i spent with my first bf, and i know i never would.
So...in response i think people cheat when they are unhappy and insecure in a relationship...and for their owbn sake nevermind that of their partners, they shouldnt be with them.
i did it because i was lonely and bored and it made me feel attractive and wanted. i know that makes me a bitch but hey, it happened
There needs to be more fear in the world.
Yeah i'd agree with that thats what i have thought but when i ask people i know who have they deny the fact, maybe they are just embarassed to admite they had problems with the relationship. I know for one i could never to that to my boyfriend.
I really feel for you Your-Babe. I don't know if you have seen my posts in the thread about what is better sex or love, but my mum is having an affair and it is screwing me up but at least no one else knows and mum doesn't know that I know so everyone else is quite happy and it hasn't messed up the whole family (yet). However I am 20 and was 18 and a half when I found out so I'm that bit older to be able to cope a bit better. It must have been awful for you at that age and with it screwing up your family.
i think when i used to do it, it was a mixture of immaturity and selfishness. i didn't take any of my relationships seriously either but now i do and i hope i would never cheat again.
Definatly, do you not think it is, if so why not?
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yeah i know but i meant why would someone not include kissing as cheating?
damn right it does
what if he kissed a guy
Thats pretty much all I've got to say on the matter - most everything else has been said very recently
Ain't that the truth.