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What do you do with your other half?

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
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Last night my mum made a comment, in all fairness it was accurate-that me and the boyfriend never seem to do much when we're together. She sys we've gotten into a rut, and don't I get bored? Truth is sometimes, but apart from going to the cinema or whatever there's not a whole lot of other options. We're not big drinkers and we socialise with our own friends seperately (it's just a lot less hassle).

What do other couples do when theyre together at night? During the day is fine I can drag him round shops or go to the airport n plane watch (cheesy but very nice). We go on holidays together during summer, went to Dublin for New Years so it's not like we're totally boring.

I just need some tips :confused:

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Cook meals together, watch DVD's, go out on walks together, go camping, i love just being spontaneous so one morning getting up and deciding to go on a trip somewhere we've never been before on the train (say 2 hours away orsomething) and staying all day, seeing what is there when we get there and then coming back as late as possible. All depends what your into but I would love it if my boyfriend came to salsa classes with me so we had something that we can do together. As I say depends on what you like to do but I say the more random and spontaneous the better sometimes!

    Why is it less hassle to socialise with your own friends separately? It's good to do that and get time to yourselves but how about going out with him sometimes?
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    littlemissylittlemissy Posts: 9,972 Supreme Poster
    What about things like the theatre or bowling? Or even going to various local tourist attractions or going somewhere you have never been before? Or go to the park and go for a walk in the evening. Or if you live by a river a nice, twilight river walk. Or have a night in a cheesy hotel. It all depends on what there is there where you live.

    You don't need to go out and drink to have a good time. I certainly don't. We never go to the pub or a club or whatever.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Last new years I spent it with him and his mates and Co started freaking out that ALL his friends were cracking on to me...(he'd had too much to drink). He also needs constant attention, otherwise he'll get anxious and fussy. "when can we go, who were you talking to? I dont know him..does he want into you?" err...yea :rolleyes: ...He gets paranoid because I'm younger, but anyway.

    We already do the whole sitting in watching dvd thing, like every week. After 2 1/2 years it's getting boring. We cant randomly go camping, with me at uni and him working full time and weekends it isn't practical. (I did DOE and hated it :p ). We cook tea together already, I mean, I'd go out with my girly mates a few times a month but I just wished there was something I could do with him when we're spending time together so I don't get bored so easily. Was maybe thinking of joining a gym or something with him so we could do that together...
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Bowlings good, Belfast is quit small so we've exhausted nearly everything!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    littlemidgetsarah wrote:
    Cook meals together, watch DVD's,

    same here, we just chill together. my boyf has a very stressful job and I'm quite highly strung so sometimes its nice to you know, just be.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    You don't have to do much, it just has to be different. We sometimes go out for the day to the coast or for a walk along the river. We sometimes go and have a nice meal, or stay in and have a nice meal. We don't tend to go to the pictures, but going bowling or something like that is a lot of fun.

    It doesn't need to be great, it just needs to be different. But do what you both enjoy. One of the nicest days I've had is when we went to Whitby in winter and had fudge and a fish supper, but that's not for everyone.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    you don't have to be all-singing all-dancing action couple of the year to be happy.

    99.9% of the time, me and mr. kaff just arse around watching bad tv/dvds, throwing ice-cream/pizza down our throats and generally being lazy and scruffy, and we're happy as pigs in shit.

    the only problem arises when one of you is a going out type person and one of you is a staying in type person. if you're both happy doing what you're doing, there isn't a problem.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    We don't really do anything. Sleep, eat. We watch the prerecorded TV shows alot together. Hes just got the Prince of Persia game so right after work until he gets hungry enough he sits on the couch doenstairs playing that and I'll take the laptop and play sims. Lame, yes, but we both enjoy it. Doing your own thing yet still being close and talking.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Thanks for the replies, I am happy being comfy than out drinking or whatever for the sake of it, I shouldn't feel like everyone else is having a better time than us. I've a lot of friends who have just started seeing people, "honeymooners"...doing my bloody bap.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    scytherchick wrote:
    Last night my mum made a comment, in all fairness it was accurate-that me and the boyfriend never seem to do much when we're together. She sys we've gotten into a rut, and don't I get bored? Truth is sometimes, but apart from going to the cinema or whatever there's not a whole lot of other options. We're not big drinkers and we socialise with our own friends seperately (it's just a lot less hassle).

    What do other couples do when theyre together at night? During the day is fine I can drag him round shops or go to the airport n plane watch (cheesy but very nice). We go on holidays together during summer, went to Dublin for New Years so it's not like we're totally boring.

    I just need some tips :confused:


    If you're content then what does it matter? Just go with whatever you like. Non-stop activity gets boring anyway.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    We just watch DVD's, go see bands...whatever.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    go on a long bus ride, just for the fun of it

    or sit on the circle line all day long
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    You could both volunteer somewhere

    http://www.bbc.co.uk/northernireland/volunteer/

    or try new stuff like salsa dancing together, etc

    If you wanna keep your mum hapy just tell her you listened to her advice and decided to join a swingers club ... that should keep her from making more suggestions... :p
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hardly do anything as just a couple now but then we have a baby.

    Over the holidays I had a whole 11 day break from work, and so we did get to have some more time together and it was nice. A little bit of shopping in the sales and a nice Chanukah party with some of the family coming round.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    My mum says exactly the same thing about me and my boyfriend!

    BUT.. with us, it's a LDR and when we do get time together, why would we want to go and sit in a dark room with 60 other people having to be quiet for two hours (aka cinema)?! We're happy doing "nothing much" :)

    When we're at home, we spend most time, lying on my bed, watching tv and talking (and wherever that leads.. ;)) and when we're at his we do pretty much the same. That said, for xmas, my mum bought us lots of cookery things so when we have his work/uni house to ourselves for the weekend (pretty often) we can learn to cook together - I think she's trying to prepare me for when she kicks me out of home!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    If your happy just chilling out in the house together then it doesn't matter if anyone else thinks you're boring! But, small variations on the normal stuff you do might make things a bit more refreshing.

    Some things me and the bloke do that you could try include:
    When cooking together, experiment with new exotic food neither of you have tried before (or dared to try!) Or alternatively order at random a really strange sounding thai meal and compare thoughts...
    Even though you don't drink much, you could try out a fancy bar and one of their cocktail pitchers to share, or try a club that plays music you like-if dancing isn't your thing there's always people-watching and making new mates.
    Going to gigs, even if they're only small local bands.
    Try investigating a part of the city you don't normally go to, and go in original boutique type shops - never know what you might find!
    New things in bed :)
    If one of you plays an instrument, you/him could teach the other
    Um, and we blast out music and dance around being silly sometimes :blush:
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    SkiveSkive Posts: 15,286 Skive's The Limit
    MrG wrote:
    go on a long bus ride, just for the fun of it

    :yes:

    This can be quality.

    Get an explorer ticket and just fuck off where ever.


    Or pack up a tent and do the South West Coast Path - the longest path in the country. :eek2:
    Weekender Offender 
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