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Bascially I have manage to pluck up the courage to have an important talk about contraception with my boyfreind, we have been going out for a year and have been having regular sex for about 6 months. I'm thinking of going on the pill or mini pill, may be even the jab.
At the moment we are using condoms, as I am not currently on the pill or some other kind of chemical contraception, this is main due to the fact that this is my first relationship and I did not see the need to use the pill etc. I have spent a lot of time researching the pro and cons of the diffrent forms of chemical contraception on various sites this one, fpa and netdoctor.
But due to work comitments over the weekend and the propsed tube strike (which is quite likely to happen), I'm unlikely to see him until next weekend which is our anniveristy.Well its not really something you can talk about over the phone and I'm not that keen to talk about it on our anniveristy, as I want it to be special.
Don't ask why we did not discuss this before, I suppose its due to that fact that when we first started sleeping together, my boyfriend just told me not to worry I have condoms and that was that. I'm thinking that in the long term it might be better if I going on pill or have the jab, as it will make my periods regular an it is considered to be slightly more effective then the condom.
Well thanks for taking the time to read my ramble. I'm not really sure what I am asking of you, but if you would like to ask me anything I will be happy to answer it. Have any of you been in a simular situation and have any advice for approaching the topic with your boyfriend, I think is what I am after from this post.
At the moment we are using condoms, as I am not currently on the pill or some other kind of chemical contraception, this is main due to the fact that this is my first relationship and I did not see the need to use the pill etc. I have spent a lot of time researching the pro and cons of the diffrent forms of chemical contraception on various sites this one, fpa and netdoctor.
But due to work comitments over the weekend and the propsed tube strike (which is quite likely to happen), I'm unlikely to see him until next weekend which is our anniveristy.Well its not really something you can talk about over the phone and I'm not that keen to talk about it on our anniveristy, as I want it to be special.
Don't ask why we did not discuss this before, I suppose its due to that fact that when we first started sleeping together, my boyfriend just told me not to worry I have condoms and that was that. I'm thinking that in the long term it might be better if I going on pill or have the jab, as it will make my periods regular an it is considered to be slightly more effective then the condom.
Well thanks for taking the time to read my ramble. I'm not really sure what I am asking of you, but if you would like to ask me anything I will be happy to answer it. Have any of you been in a simular situation and have any advice for approaching the topic with your boyfriend, I think is what I am after from this post.
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why do you want to go on the pill? is it with the intention of not using condoms (i.e. contraceptive reasons) or is it to do with your periods?
either way, it's your body and your choice. whether he still wants to carry on using condoms is upto him as well as you.
eta: i've been taking microgynon 30 since april and have had no problems. you could try doing a search (if you haven't done one already) on here about the forms of contraception.
I'd fully recommend the contraceptive patch. I was on the jab, and it does the wonderful thing of taking your periods away, however, it does put weight on you.
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Patch website, I've used the patch for about 2 months now, nothing's bothered me apart from my nipples were tender and that was about it.
I'm considering going on the pill or another form of chemical contraception.
My periods are quiet regular, but they can vary by about 5 days (which can be a pain), so the pill would help this, as I know that I will have my period during the break.
I think it is only far that I should talk to my boyfriend about this decison, as he might be happy enough just to keep on using condoms, I am.
Even though we have never had any really problems with using the condom, the pill, patch and jab all seem to be slightly more effective then the condom.
Finally I was just a bit annoied that I found an email this morning from him saying that he has to work tomorrow, when we had planned to spend the day together in central London. But know he has been promoted and they are bring new people into his company I guess thats just going to happen at times.
It is still recommended to use a condom as well as the pill. My boyfriend was happier once I was on the pill just for that added peace of mind. There is the possibilty of putting on weight, getting acne etc but I haven't had any problems. My periods are lighter and shorter, my skin is better, I haven't put on any weight apart from my boobs getting a bit bigger (a big bonus for me!) and I can control when I have my period so if I am going on holiday I can take two packs back to back and I can enjoy my holiday period free!!
I'd definately recommend it but everyone is different so talk to your GP to find what is best for you.
Hope that hepls, sorry to have rambled on so much!
you know when you change the time you took it, did you just start doing it at the start of a new pack? because i take mine at 9pm but it's a faff if i'm out so i want to change and take it in the morning.
Yes I did it at the start of a new pack. Had no problems at all. Just meant that instead of coming on in the afternoon I came on in the morning.
Your right, i think we are close enough to talk about sex, as my boyfriend has seemed to have learnt my cycle. Yhe other month he said, I'm not going to get any on boxing day, as my cycle is normally about 26-27 days. I then had to sit there and think for a few seconds before replying you know your right.
It's up to you to choose contraception, but if you want to ditch condoms you make sure you both go and get tested for STIs.
Few people consider it yet it has so many benefits and advantages over other forms of contraception.
Once its fitted (which takes about 5 minutes) it stays put for 5 years, you dont have to remember to do anything.
Side effects are virtually non existant as hormones are not being pumped around your body, they are slowly being released into the endometrium only.
Also makes periods lighter and often makes them stop altogether
I would have suggested that, but I don't think it would be good as a first time contraceptive device. The wife has one and its great, but it did hurt going in.
But I'm a man, I'm not the best person to say;)