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My grandma is passing
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Monday my grandma had a heart attack. She had one about 5 years previously. Its my dads mom. Him and his sisters are meeting with the Dr. today. She is probably going to have an angeoplasty. They didn't want to give her one before as the risks were too high. But now they probably will as they say she will probably only live a few more months, or until she has the surgery.
I've only ever been old enough to remember and care about 2 people dying before. And both those, they were people with whom I no longer cared about anyways.
Its not like my grandmother and I were best friends. I rarely visited her as I live far away. But she was a great woman. I always enjoyed visiting her when I did. Been living tough for a while, very very bad arthritis everywhere, heart problems, eye problems... alot. But she is my dads mother. She is all my dad has left. I feel absoutly horrible that my grandmother is going to be gone soon. And I feel just devistated for my dad. Hes my papa!
Since Monday when he told me he's just sounded so sad. I don't know what to do. I'm sad too.
I've only ever been old enough to remember and care about 2 people dying before. And both those, they were people with whom I no longer cared about anyways.
Its not like my grandmother and I were best friends. I rarely visited her as I live far away. But she was a great woman. I always enjoyed visiting her when I did. Been living tough for a while, very very bad arthritis everywhere, heart problems, eye problems... alot. But she is my dads mother. She is all my dad has left. I feel absoutly horrible that my grandmother is going to be gone soon. And I feel just devistated for my dad. Hes my papa!
Since Monday when he told me he's just sounded so sad. I don't know what to do. I'm sad too.
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There's a chance that she'll survive until the operation and that it will give her more time though?
My grandfather on my mums side died about 6 weeks ago and it was horrible. We are a close family and it tore my mum apart. However, she had so much support from her brothers and sisters and my dad and myself that she got through it. And your dad will get through it too.
Also, although your grandmother is passing, it isn't all your dad has left. He has you and your mum.
If you want to chat then you know where I am. Thinking of you lots xx
My gran died very recently but she was in her mid 80's and had been ill for over a year. She had no quality of life so it was a bit of a relief in the end. She had a good innings anyway.
She'll have to be in a nursing home for a month or so once she is released but then she can go back home. I'm so happy. They never told me how much longer they expected to give her by having the surgery done, but they did say that she wasn't going to do it if would have only given her like 2 years. So I'm assuming the best.
My Dad had a triple bypass in November 2004 - they reckon if you look after yourself, you've got 10 years and more after the surgery. He's right as rain now, although it must have taken him a year to recover fully - I mean to the point of how he was before all his heart troubles. But he's a different bloke.
I'm dead chuffed for you pal! xxx
i forget who said the word...but i totally agree that whoever hear the passing of someone, whether he know or not know him or her, he will also feel sad about it...
She kept having these like breathing panic attacks that we couldn't understand and on New Years Eve my dad ended up ringing for an ambulance because she wasn't getting any better at all. The said it was heart failure. This was when the heart fails to function properly and it was going at a rate of up to 200. You couldn't get that from a day at the gym. From this they put her on some medication to bring the heart rate down. I saw her on Ney Years eve and she looked ok. New Years day my dad took me to see her and he should have warned me what I was going to see. I went in a ward thinking we've got the wrong ward, just seeing a woman on a monitor until I looked a little closer and realised it was my mum. That scare the hell out of me. My dad told me not to worry and that it was just a machine and she woke up and we had a little bit of a chat. I went home worrying a little but not too bad. About 3 o clock the next morning we got a call saying she'd got worse. Once gettin to the hospital a registrar took us into a little waiting room. From that I knew something was really wrong. He told us about the heart going up again and her blood pressure dropping. Then he told us about a CT scan she went for in December and that they got the results back and her cancer had come back after 6 yrs. From that he told us that even if the heart was cured the cancer would have taken 3 months max. Obviously this was a shock and still is a shock. I'm still stuggling to accept that she's gone. However from the last day she had with us I can be happy about. She had all her family there for her, to say goodbye to her. Even that night before I left i said I was going and she said "ok night god bless" and smiled at me and although thats the last smile I'm going to see from her, I couldn't have left on a better ending and a better face. She was in no pain and most of all she didn't know her cancer had come back because if she had she would have gone a very frightened woman.
So all I can say is make sure you spend as much time with them as you possibly can and say your farewells to them because I feel myself very lucky that I got the chance to. Not many people get that oppertunity. And also like I'm having to do now, look after your dad. My dad lost his mum and dad a while back but this is the biggest blow to him, losing the love of his life. I'm sticking by my dad as is my brother. I feel bad for losing my mum but my pain is nothing compared to my dad's pain. So take care of them all.
I wish you all the best
Jesus mate. I don't know what to say. I hope everything gets better for you soon.
Ditto. That sounds so very tough. Be strong. I'm of use if you every want to rant