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Flat mate driving me mad
BillieTheBot
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I live in a kinda shared house type thing. My parents live downstairs and me an another guy live upstairs. My parents are in the process of converting the house into two flats, but its gonna take anything up to five years to do fully.
Now my flat mate new this (let call him jo) before he moved in, and ever since all he does is complain. About the rent being too high, he pays £85 a week unless he does gardening for us then its reduced by anything up to £20. This inclueds all bills (except the phone bill) and food. I know I dont know much but from looking around it seems really cheap to me considering where we live. He complains about my parents and thinks its ok to slag them off to me, I mean what does he expect me to say?
My mum has told him not to let his friends stay when he goes out and that seems fair, but he's going on about it saying all his mates are really trust worthy and its just like, yea they may be to you, but they are also total coke heads and i wouldnt put it past half of them.
He's also really loud when he comes in late at night. My parents bed room is right next to the front door and he doesnt seem to care about having loud conversations right next to their room. Its one thing to want to be indipendent and live the way you want to but he sharing a house and surly if it was mates he was living with he wouldnt treat them that way.
he blasts his music to all hours of the night and also when he gets up in the morning. It drives me up the wall! Here I am trying to study, or having just got back from a lte shift at work and really need to have some quiet and he wont turn it down!!!
I've tried talking to him but he gets all high and mighty saying that he pays to live here and he can do what he wants and shouldnt have to feel like he's back home with mum and dad.
Now my flat mate new this (let call him jo) before he moved in, and ever since all he does is complain. About the rent being too high, he pays £85 a week unless he does gardening for us then its reduced by anything up to £20. This inclueds all bills (except the phone bill) and food. I know I dont know much but from looking around it seems really cheap to me considering where we live. He complains about my parents and thinks its ok to slag them off to me, I mean what does he expect me to say?
My mum has told him not to let his friends stay when he goes out and that seems fair, but he's going on about it saying all his mates are really trust worthy and its just like, yea they may be to you, but they are also total coke heads and i wouldnt put it past half of them.
He's also really loud when he comes in late at night. My parents bed room is right next to the front door and he doesnt seem to care about having loud conversations right next to their room. Its one thing to want to be indipendent and live the way you want to but he sharing a house and surly if it was mates he was living with he wouldnt treat them that way.
he blasts his music to all hours of the night and also when he gets up in the morning. It drives me up the wall! Here I am trying to study, or having just got back from a lte shift at work and really need to have some quiet and he wont turn it down!!!
I've tried talking to him but he gets all high and mighty saying that he pays to live here and he can do what he wants and shouldnt have to feel like he's back home with mum and dad.
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Did your parents get him to sign a contract when he moved in? it should have start stuff like the noise levels, guests, paying of rent. house rules etc.... if he gets too bad you can give him minium of 2-4weeks (i think it is) to move out.
Might be an idea to give him a warning and if he doesn't change, tell him to leave.
And if he is being a nuisance, I'm sure there are routes you / your parents can take to have him removed. If there's no pretty typed up contract and no material agreement, then there's nothing to stop you removing him, I would have thought!
There's no real point to this, except flatmates are annoying.
Have you just told him to STFU?
However, it does sound like he needs to realise where his bread is currently being buttered, and have a little respect for the people he has to share his life with. I think a quiet word and a decent explanation might help, failing that just serve him notice and get someone new in
I don't think it is out of order to:-
No use of audio amplifiers(or televisions) between 11pm and 7am. Though obviously if they are quiet and thoughtful of others then this should largely be ignored.
The occasional friend may stay over with the prior permission of the landlord. But, obviously, if someone decent moves in and they have a decent partner who causes no problem to anyone else, again it should largely be ignored.
Make up whatever rules are required to control the people who don't consider the needs of the other people in the house. Ignore them as much as possible for the folk in life who have common sense, and tend to be rational human beings who treat others how they'd like to be treated
i think the amount that guy who rents from zella's mummy and daddy, is paying, which includes all this guys food, and all his bills apart from the phone, especially in the area they are living in, £80 a week is more than reasonable
i know a guy who pays £65 a week in durham for a nice enough house, which includes the water bill and nothing else
if they manage to get the to sign the right contract, or even if he doesnt, the fact that he lives in the same house as the landlord, not nullify the rights of either the landlord or the tennant in certainareas?
you just validated my point :yeees:
so by been able to kick out the tennant more easily, some peoples rights have been invalidated