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Me the bad friend!
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Let me just start off by saying a happy 2006 to everyone at thesite.org! :wave:
Well a nice little problem to start off the year, well, not really start it off as its been playing on my mind for a while now..
Its not my friends, its me.
I feel like a really bad mate to a few select friends as i hardly ever see them. before i met my gf we used to go out nearly every night then as me and my gf got more serious it started to stretch out a bit, every other night, then every week, then once a fortnight etc.. now i hardly ever see them at all and rarely even speak to them. they do make the effort to ring me but now even that has become less frequent and im hardly ever at home to phone them(dont have a mobile).
Although they dont show it and are all matey with me still, i get the distinct feeling that they are pissed off that ive sort of ditched them for my gf - Not that i can blame them mind as i'd be pissed off too.
Well basically, im asking for ways to make it up to them that cost very little money as i dont really have any. The social life i used to have with them generally revolved around a pub or drinking, which i dont really do anymore.
These guys have been my best mates since i was about 5 and i dont want to lose touch or fall out with any of them, so please help with ideas!
Thanks
Well a nice little problem to start off the year, well, not really start it off as its been playing on my mind for a while now..
Its not my friends, its me.
I feel like a really bad mate to a few select friends as i hardly ever see them. before i met my gf we used to go out nearly every night then as me and my gf got more serious it started to stretch out a bit, every other night, then every week, then once a fortnight etc.. now i hardly ever see them at all and rarely even speak to them. they do make the effort to ring me but now even that has become less frequent and im hardly ever at home to phone them(dont have a mobile).
Although they dont show it and are all matey with me still, i get the distinct feeling that they are pissed off that ive sort of ditched them for my gf - Not that i can blame them mind as i'd be pissed off too.
Well basically, im asking for ways to make it up to them that cost very little money as i dont really have any. The social life i used to have with them generally revolved around a pub or drinking, which i dont really do anymore.
These guys have been my best mates since i was about 5 and i dont want to lose touch or fall out with any of them, so please help with ideas!
Thanks
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i guess you could start by telling them you're sorry that you havent spent much time with them lately and that you want to change that. i don't think you need to make it up to them as such, just start hanging out with them. go to the pub with them and just have one drink or go round to their house.
It's all a great big balancing act isnt it, having to fit everyone in and keep them all happy, some times you forget about your own happiness at times too. It's expected that when someone finds a partner they will generally spend less time with friends, though that doesnt mean its the case all the time, to spend more time with their partner.
I suggest apologising to your friends for somewhat depriving them..explain the situation and they will understand if you have been friends for so long You don't need to make it up to them, just spend more time with them and that will be enough. A suggestion..maybe go out with ur mates..invite the g/f along with some of her mates