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Gooseberry
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New Year's Eve is the most depressing time to be single. Last year I spent it being the only person with no one to kiss at midnight in a rubbish bar in Soho and this year because I have to go to work in a minute I didn't bother spending £18 to get into a club at 11:50 but I was out with three couples anyway and even though they said they wanted me around I just felt like a spare wheel. Sigh. After 20 years, it would be really nice if next year I'm not still single!
Sorry this is just a rant.
Sorry this is just a rant.
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i posted a similar thread yesterday - which i didn't get any replies to. you're right - NYE is the most depressing time. i'm with someone but he couldn't be bothered to spend the evening with me and went out with friends instead - what hurt even more was the fact that we live 200 miles apart most of the year and the friends he was visiting live less than 20 minutes drive from me - and i wasn't invited.
i was alone last night and it was awful, feeling like a spare part all night, and not having anyone to smooch at midnight.
just to say i understand and hope you're ok - and sorry for adding my own little rant to your thread. take care and look after yourself - and you WILL find someone, when you least expect it....
love from cavegirl
xx
That's terrible! Feel bad for both of you
I am single to and al I wanted was 1 proper kiss at midnight. This party whch was supposed to have plnety of singles there didn't, every girl was taken except for maybe 1 and she wasn't interested. I got hugs an dkisses on the cheek but no proper kiss. I left at about 2:30 and there were a few still there who no doubt had fun with their gfs and ones that weren't in a couple probably feel in2 bed anyway as thats how it seemd when I left.
New Years really does suck when you single. I have been single for too long and I just know I can make a girl happy if I get the chance.
1 kiss at midnight wasn't much to ask for but still I didn't get one. Oh well.
Blimey, he must really be something else the rest of the time to make up for that kind of insensitivity.
lol - fortunately he's not all bad, he's usually very considerate and fab - just does stupid stuff like this from time to time. ironically, got a text from him an hour ago telling me he went to bed early at his friends house and took two sleeping tablets - so i've been doubly snubbed. *laughs cynically*.
I agree with bluetooth. Folks don't get too down hearted about one way-over hyped nite. This is the start of a new year and there are lots of exciting things that can happen in life and in love
Chin up everyone :thumb:
you really shouldn't view being single as being a bad thing 'cause it's really not.
I usually go out for new year and feel the same as you did. Last night I stayed in with female friends and played drinking games, it was great, no pressure, no "ohmigod I don't have a bloke to snog at midnight".
Rang my bf/whatever he is now to wish him happy new year and he kept dumping the call. so er yeah, better to be single!
This has been my 22nd Christmas and New year being single (relationships don't last with me, I like the freedom to be myself and always hook up in the spring) and yeah, maybe you have nobody to snog, but if you've got your friends then you can always get a cuddle (maybe even a kiss) with them.
Look on being single as a chance for self-discovery and freedom... Well that's just what I believe.
You really shouldn't care. Being single isn't anything bad, don't go out with couples next time.
Agree with this. I'm single and decided to spend the night working instead. Party atmosphere, good laugh with your work collegues, free drinks bought for you all night (and being allowed to drink them since it's new year), and double pay. I find Christmas eve night is a lot better than new years now, since it's pretty similar without the rip-off prices.
Incidentally, I find going out on valentines day, rather than new year, is more likely to result in you pulling. Everyone in a club is likely to be single, and many will be feeling bitter that they are single so you can take advantage (not that I ever would :no: ).
I didn't get a kiss at midnight, not a proper one. I didn'yt hover round girls expectingly. I made sure I knew which girls were taken and which weren't and I even asked before hand so not assume anything, give them a hocie you know/ I'm not sure if that was a good thing, might be seen as too nice or summat but I wasnt gonna grab a girl and force my tongue down her thorat. Never do that. My mate said I should have done that while we were talking to this girl, the one I wanted to kiss at midnight and she said no way to doing that and I agree. She ended up sleeping with one of my mates who she has slept with before, though my mate claimed they don't od owt sexual this time coz he was to far gone.
I just hope this yera is it for me. I mean its started pretty poorly with th enew year snight, me now being ill with another bloddy cold and my folsk at each others throats so its not looking good but I am hoping for some luck. I still don't think there is better feeling then hugging and kissing someone who is into you and you into them.
i totally agree!
well i spent NYE with my ex... which i think was prob a stupid idea in retrospect. it was just depressing cos i was wishing we were still together...
Yeah, riiight
Being a gooseberry is shite, and like Kermit said, it doesn't just happen to single folk. I went for a night down the pub with my friend and his girlfriend while my fella was away, and despite many (many) promises that they wouldn't be all lovey-dovey and exclude me they were just that. I ended up talking to an old perv at the bar most of the evening :thumb:
Some people are so inconsiderate... :grump:
It did'nt stop me getting my drink tho! lol.
You Voyeur :-) :thumb:
The only good thing about being the only single among couples is that they might know single people to introduce you to.