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Just wondering...

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
in Sex & Relationships
Hiya I'm new on here so here goes..
I've been with my boyf for a while now but i still havent slept (had sex, made love whatever)with him and although i really want 2, im still a virgin and he's got more experience so i feel v shy abt it.
He's fine 2wait but i definitly feel ready.

Have u guys got any advice?
Thanx!!

By the way i'm 16 nrly 17.
love me :)

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    It's OK to be a bit shy, just remember to take your time and don't do anything before you are ready. Find out as much as you can about sex, STDs and contraception in the meantime, so you at least know what you are doing. There are some good articles on here: http://www.thesite.org/sex/ to look at.

    If he is really worth it, he will wait until you are both ready. If not, you are better off without him. And as for guys being more experienced, sometimes they stretch the truth a bit to impress people - and you can have hundreds of lovers and still be a crap shag!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by RedEd:
    It's OK to be a bit shy, just remember to take your time and don't do anything before you are ready. Find out as much as you can about sex, STDs and contraception in the meantime, so you at least know what you are doing. There are some good articles on here: http://www.thesite.org/sex/ to look at.



    RedEd.. thanx 4 your reply.

    I know all abt STDs, contraception etc as i have been doing research (lol) I know tht my boyf will b considerate when we finally do make love but im just waiting 4 the right moment and i guess I will know when it is.

    I'm in no rush to do it for his sake, although im sure he wont complain!,it's just as i am so shy im not sure how 2 start the proceedings (so 2 speak).

    Cheers!

    love me :)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Just make sure that it's special EmJa, you'll remember it for the rest of your life.

    J9
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Well, unless your so drunk you CAN'T remember it. (Not you EmJa, I have issues at the moment!)

    Yeh, make dead sure that you have the whole contraception issue sorted out beforehand, cuz there's nothing worse than getting so far and then realising you'll have to stop (or risk motherhood.) Bleeuurghhh. When I say sort it out, I mean with him. Make sure you talk about it. Muy, muy embarrassing sometimes, but it beats excessive fumbling at the last minute!

    Well, you could 'start proceedings' by just ravishing him until he gets the idea. But, that's a bit cheapo if you ask me. You could try the "Fred and Freda are doing it you know, sugarlips." (Or other chosen endearment!) And then the conversation will progress. And so on and so forth <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"&gt;

    Or, just tell him you've been thinking about it quite a bit lately, etc etc. Planning 'the moment' ahead can be exciting. Make sure that you're free of all human harrasments e.g. dad walking in on you, neighbours taking pictures, dog eating the strawberry-flavoured condoms, whatever.

    Have fun <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/cool.gif"&gt;

    *|* Chica *|*

    Stay Calm <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/mad.gif"&gt;
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    My last girlfriend was a virgin when we met, the way we first did it was to talk and take things slowly.

    When you first do it, make sure you have plenty of foreplay and take things slowly.

    When I first tried to make love to my girlfriend, it hurt her so we did more foreplay and left it for that night. But eventually when it did happen it was great.

    And it means alot more if you wait until you are good and ready as you are alot more relaxed.

    "Always used contraception"

    ALL THE BEST AND ENJOY.

    NuttyLad <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;



    [This message has been edited by NuttyLad (edited 08-11-2000).]
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Thanx every1... I think it's just nerves. We've talked loads abt it so i'll c what happens...

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    love me :)
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