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SHOULD I? SHOULDN'T I? under age sex

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
iam really not sure if i should or shouldn't please give me ur views <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/eek.gif"&gt;
on under age sex , iam 15 b the way <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

cheers <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"&gt;

love ya

hang on to it , <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/mad.gif"&gt; the girl

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Underage sex is illegal but i s'pose u realise that already.

    Y do u want 2 have sex with him? Is it bcoz u want 2 or bcoz u think u shud?

    xxx Mia xxx
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    if u askin us if u should then u obviously rnt ready, dont feel pressurised, if he loves u he'll wait. u also have to think could u cope with the consiquences.
    dont b ashamed 2 b a virgin either, its cool 2 b 1 i recon, not that i am but wish i was.
    love ya helly
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I think only u can answer this question. But goin by the fact that u have asked others oppinions, id probably say to wait. I think mental age is the real facter, not phisical age. At the end of the day its a big step in life and one u should think really carefully about.
    I was too young when I lost my virginity, and it was under bad circumstances too. I would have done anything to keep my innocense and I think thats really important.
    Think long and hard and u will find the answer in the end.
    Goodluck honey
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru

    I was too young when I lost my virginity, and it was under bad circumstances too. I would have done anything to keep my innocense and I think thats really important.
    Think long and hard and u will find the answer in the end.
    Goodluck honey [/B][/QUOTE]


    ohh this is sooo scarey , ok plaese dont shout at me , but at the mo i feel that all the virgintity stuff isnt that much of a big thing , I surpose its one of those things that you dont really under stand till you ave done it .
    plaese let me expalin to you all that i do love this boy we ave been together for 7 mouths and we can talk about any thing.

    i think the real prob here is that b4 i wnet out wiv him i had never considered losin my virginity untill i was way over 16 , its not that its illagel or any thing it just i never though that i need to do it .

    Iam sorry this doesnt really make sence but plaese will you still keep givin me ur advice ,

    LOve girl <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/mad.gif"&gt;
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru

    dont b ashamed 2 b a virgin either, its cool 2 b 1 i recon, not that i am but wish i was.
    love ya helly[/B][/QUOTE]

    sorry me agian , i just would like to tell you all one more thing b4 you post ur reply , iam not at all Ashamed to be a virgin

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru


    "ohh this is sooo scarey , ok plaese dont shout at me , but at the mo i feel that all the virgintity stuff isnt that much of a big thing , I surpose its one of those things that you dont really under stand till you ave done it .
    [/B][/QUOTE]

    U know the saying... u dont realise what u have until u lose it.... wait a while, mature a bit more and u will know when u feel ready.



    xxx Mia xxx
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Girl.. there r other things that u can do without losing your virginity. U can get 2 know each others bodies first b4 u go the whole way.
    Good luck <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    xxx Mia xxx
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Mia:
    Girl.. there r other things that u can do without losing your virginity. U can get 2 know each others bodies first b4 u go the whole way.
    Good luck <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    the thing is Mia we have already done those thing , and well oh i do no .

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I was just readin Mia other post and i think she is right , i cant be ready yet or esle i would no ?
    Please answer me this , bit u all no
    that i was right b4 ur lost urs.
    Or did u feel like me and relised after wards
    that it wasn't the right time

    this is sooo :scarey:

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by GIRL:
    Please answer me this , bit u all no
    that i was right b4 ur lost urs.
    Or did u feel like me and relised after wards
    that it wasn't the right time

    this is sooo :scarey:



    It shudn't be majorly scary.. sure a bit of nerves but u seem 2 be getting far 2 worked up abt it so u obviously arent ready.

    4 ages i kept thinking that i was ready and when it came 2 the crunch i wasn't and i pushed him away. Then one time i felt right, we were in a hotel so we were sure no1 wud come walking in, the mood was right and it just happened.
    I didnt regret it at all. But i know so many friends that rushed and have regretted it... i cant enforce it enuff... u must trust your boyf completely and know that he will stop if u say no.

    Is he a virgin aswell? bcoz if he his u can both just experiment and u might find it easier as u r in the same position.

    If u do decide to make love to this boy, make sure that u have a good time, u r s'posed to be doing it for pleasure so enjoy it.

    xxx Mia xxx
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru

    Is he a virgin aswell? bcoz if he his u can both just experiment and u might find it easier as u r in the same position.

    he is a virgin , and i do trust him , but some how i geel that its not that easy just to say no <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/eek.gif"&gt;

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Mia i couldn't help notising that in one of your other postings you said u were 17. you dont have to answer this but how old were u when u lost urs.

    <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"&gt;

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by GIRL:
    Mia i couldn't help notising that in one of your other postings you said u were 17. you dont have to answer this but how old were u when u lost urs.

    <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"&gt;



    No i dont mind answering, i was just 17 and i felt mature enough by then. I had also been in a steady relationship.



    xxx Mia xxx
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by GIRL:

    Is he a virgin aswell? bcoz if he his u can both just experiment and u might find it easier as u r in the same position.

    he is a virgin , and i do trust him , but some how i geel that its not that easy just to say no <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/eek.gif"&gt;



    It's probably easier 2 say yes but if it is something that u dont want 2 happen u must say no... be assertive.


    xxx Mia xxx
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i really dont no if i want to say yes or no ,i really didn't think i would have to make decsion yet .
    but i am relising that i have to make my mind up , sooon.
    BUt if a say no now hes just gonna think that i want to wait till iam 16 . But if i do deside to to go a head wiv it now i no for sure that my mine wont change in a matter of mounths .


    oh please please help me . please tell me about ur experiances and ur friends. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/eek.gif"&gt;
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by GIRL:
    i really dont no if i want to say yes or no ,i really didn't think i would have to make decsion yet .
    but i am relising that i have to make my mind up , sooon.
    BUt if a say no now hes just gonna think that i want to wait till iam 16 . But if i do deside to to go a head wiv it now i no for sure that my mine wont change in a matter of mounths .


    oh please please help me . please tell me about ur experiances and ur friends. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/eek.gif"&gt;


    Erm.. it's not a bad thing to wait until u r 16, ur opinions may change.

    I dont know what else i can say 2 help u make your decision because there is only so much that i can tell u and then u alone have to make your mind up.

    I feel that from what u have said u need 2 wait, or at least sit down and have a long chat (even tho it may seem embarassing) with your boyf. Express your concerns and fears and im sure he will try to put your mind at rest. He is prob equally worried.

    I dont feel that any1 else can help u now, we cant tell u 2do it nor can we tell u not 2. It has to come from u.

    Good luck with whatever u decide and remember it's good 2 talk!


    xxx Mia xxx
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hey there GIRL,
    I was 16, and I totally didn't regret it at all, but I have friends that were that age or older and do regret it. So I think its something you wanna be sure about, if you're not too sure about it then you run the risk of regretting. You'll know when you're ready.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    whoa...this topic filled up quick!
    Girl, I think that u should wait, Im saying this because u keep mentioning how scary it is and u sound really desperate to hear toher peoples experiances. Its ok to b scared a bit but it seems to me that u r totally freaked by it all. If u r like this now, just think how u may feel after. Im not saying it will b bad, I dont know how u will deal with it, I just think that u should wait till u r older and can cope with the situation better.
    I dont wasnt u to think Im preaching, Im just looking out for u coz it worries me <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I'd be a hypocrite if I lectured you, seeing as how I was 15. But I really wouldn't encourage it. I've watched friends get screwed up (no pun) by having sex because they were curious and felt they had to. Personally, I don't regret it at all but you have to appreciate how fucking dangerous it is, when you consider the fact you could easily be lumbered with sprog for the next 18 years. Wait. But if you don't, use a condom <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"&gt;

    *|* Chica *|*


    Stay Calm <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/mad.gif"&gt;
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I honestly think you should wait. If your very nervous and having to ask others than perhaps you aren't ready yet.

    Is your boyfriend pressurising you into it at all? If he's not then I think it might be best to wait. I don't think the legal age limit should be that much of an issue as everyone matures phsically and emotionally at different rates.

    Do you feel like you've got to have sex, is it curiosity or does it just seem "right"?

    Whatever you decide, I hope you make the best choice, and don't regret it afterwards. Just remember, its your body.

    Take care, Caliph
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