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I'm not sure if this is the best area for this post - so sorry if it's in the wrong place!
For nearly a year now, I've not been very well (in the head - pardon the expression), and as a result have thought that my ex is dead. I know that sounds very strange, but I believed it to be real, up until coming out with it to someone recently, and then owning up to lying about it the next day, which has prompted me to get professional help.
However, back in April / May, I told another friend of my ex being dead (it sounds weird, but at the time I believed it to be true - hard to explain, but bear with me). She was helpful and supportive, which makes me feel worse now - but I feel that she deserves to know the truth, regardless of any consequences to our friendship. Even if I lose my friendship, I feel being honest is far more important.
But how is the best way of telling her? I am extremely ashamed of myself, and cannot see myself bringing to tell her in person. A text or e-mail is just too informal and off-the-cuff, so I was thinking of a card. Obviously, it would say more than "I lied to you about my ex being dead", but is it the "best" way? (If there's a best way in the circumstances!)
Or should I tell her in person?
Thanks,
Mac.
For nearly a year now, I've not been very well (in the head - pardon the expression), and as a result have thought that my ex is dead. I know that sounds very strange, but I believed it to be real, up until coming out with it to someone recently, and then owning up to lying about it the next day, which has prompted me to get professional help.
However, back in April / May, I told another friend of my ex being dead (it sounds weird, but at the time I believed it to be true - hard to explain, but bear with me). She was helpful and supportive, which makes me feel worse now - but I feel that she deserves to know the truth, regardless of any consequences to our friendship. Even if I lose my friendship, I feel being honest is far more important.
But how is the best way of telling her? I am extremely ashamed of myself, and cannot see myself bringing to tell her in person. A text or e-mail is just too informal and off-the-cuff, so I was thinking of a card. Obviously, it would say more than "I lied to you about my ex being dead", but is it the "best" way? (If there's a best way in the circumstances!)
Or should I tell her in person?
Thanks,
Mac.
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Definately do it face to face, otherwise it's kinda like taking an easy way out. Good luck. Even if she doesn't accept it at first, and gets pissed off (which is gonna be understandable) give her some space and hopefully she will forgive you.
It was my ex gf, but thanks anyway - think I've gotta do it in person.
To be honest, I don't expect her to accept it or forgive me, but I'd rather she knew the truth. At least that's one thing I will have done right.
Mac.
Good luck :thumb:
Anyway, I told her the truth, explained it as best I could etc. She took it fairly well, and said she appreciated me telling her. She said it was a shock (understandable!), but she'd still want to be my friend. And things seem pretty fine so far, as I saw her today and took the chance to thank her for being supportive about it.
Still, its early days. Fingers crossed, but either way, I'm glad I told the truth.