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Do 'Breaks' Work?
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We're apparently on a break for 3 weeks so that we can learn to appreciate each other again and decide if it's definatley each other who we want to be with.
Been together for 2 and a half years, she's just gone off to uni (locally) so personally I can see her coming back and saying lets leave it.
Whatrs your experience?
Been together for 2 and a half years, she's just gone off to uni (locally) so personally I can see her coming back and saying lets leave it.
Whatrs your experience?
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But it might bring you two closer, she might be missing you like mad, and viser versa.
The break didnt really work seeing as in those few weeks he managed to get someone pregnant :chin:
With the last blokey i think we spent more time on breaks than in the actual relationship.Ok so thats probably an exaggeratio but nothing changed or was better because of the breaks.Other than the sex got alot better everytime we came off a break.He was full of false promises and other jangled shit and on more than one occassion i slept with other people.No not something im proud of to be honest but i should have gotten out of the relationship there and then rather than hang on and conrinually go on breaks to sort things out.Cos we never did sort things out.
But i think with the right couple breaks can be the right and appropriate thing to do.Mhm what a contradiction.
So 2 months later and feeling liberated, we see each other. Still madly in love, got back together on Thursday and he left a few hours ago after talking about moving in together.
Sometimes you see things from a great new perspective but there's not necessarily a right or wrong choice. And in my opinion, you can always get back together and break up, but more often than not the getting back together option never comes around twice. Go for it, if it's wrong you can break up!
yeh and what a load of bollocks that is.
firstly if you read properly, it's his girlfriend that's gone to uni.
and yes people can have relationships while at uni. you're obviously not mature enough to be able to think it's possible and think it's all about shagging about.
And your proof is where?
I have a friend who has just finished uni. She met her boyfriend before starting and they are still together. They went to uni in opposite ends of the country. And it worked.
So yes, although some relationships may not work, others will.
Having a break tends to make your mind up on how you really feel about that person. Hopefully it makes you realise how much you like the person, and how much you appreciate them. Sometimes though it makes you realise you were not meant to be together afterall.
I hope things work out for you.