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One of the guys in my year is 17 and is going out with an eleven/twelve-year-old girl. I don't see the appeal and he's had the piss taken out of him for quite a while now, but it's not bothered him really because he likes her that much.
However, this week, teachers have been "having words" with him and this came to a head when the girl was told she is no longer allowed to see him in school. Apparently, he's got no interest in having sex with her, though you could often see them getting off around school.
I think it's pretty rank myself but it's their choice, isn't it? Is it right for the school to intervene as they have? There's no legal issue, it's simply moral, and even then, is it not for them to decide?
However, this week, teachers have been "having words" with him and this came to a head when the girl was told she is no longer allowed to see him in school. Apparently, he's got no interest in having sex with her, though you could often see them getting off around school.
I think it's pretty rank myself but it's their choice, isn't it? Is it right for the school to intervene as they have? There's no legal issue, it's simply moral, and even then, is it not for them to decide?
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How can they have proof of that?
You can argue his case, but at the end of the day the school must be on the look out for any signs of child abuse and that includes sexual abuse perpetrated by fellow pupils.
exactly
I fully agree with Kermit in this thread.
if they let other people get off with each other left right and center then maybe they can complain about them being predudice but if thats not the case then i dont think its unfair.
in my 1st year one of my friends was going out with a lad out of final year. they rang her parents and told them that she was having sex but they only knew because one of the teachers had had her in their office saying that if she needed the school nurse for anything then just to let them know and nothing would come of it. she did and they rang her parents. her own fault for telling them but mean all the same
I didn't think the school could have the authority to do that though. It is pretty disgusting.
I got asked to get off with a girl in a club at the weekend. I asked her if it wasn;t past her bedtime. She was about 13! It was an unders club though so I should have expected as much.
A mate of mine got into trouble for holding hands with his gf too.
I think most schools disallow it. I never saw the point then but I do now.
"The pavement is to walk on, not stand by with your friends and chat."
"The sea is to swim in, not pick up mud from the bottom and throw it to others."
In case you're wondering what my point is: Sure, certain places are intended for certain purposes. But where does it say that nothing else can be done there?
Parents are blaming the schools for their brats getting knocked up and for things like this happening because it's a lot easier to blame the schools than themselves even though they are the people who should really be teaching this kind of shit.
I digress a little but fully support the school in what they did. However, I personally think it's the parents' sphere and not the schools but hey ho, I've been clear on that point.
Sitcks and stones and all that but at no point did he not look at himself and think 'what the fuck am I doing?'
The pavement regulator (to use your metaphor) is within their rights to tell you to move on and stop standing and chatting though, surely?
and you'd probably expect their school to tell you about the situation and at least make sure nothing was happening in school.
Exactly. Imagine the scenerio in which the school had not intervened and it later transpired that the guy abused this girl.