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bright or beautiful?
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Listen, i had an attack of deep thinking this morning, and here’s what i’ve come up with: suppose a fairy came down to you and said she would grant you a wish, so you can either be more smart or more good-looking, what would you chose then?
No, forget the fairy, what I really mean is, to what extent may intelligence and the sense of humor contribute to a person’s sex appeal? Could it possibly be that they are more important after all than the physical appereance? Who is less likely to find a partner: a hopelessly ugly person or a hopelessly stupid person? Have you ever fallen in love with someone who was beautiful but rather silly?
Anyone interested in this topic?
No, forget the fairy, what I really mean is, to what extent may intelligence and the sense of humor contribute to a person’s sex appeal? Could it possibly be that they are more important after all than the physical appereance? Who is less likely to find a partner: a hopelessly ugly person or a hopelessly stupid person? Have you ever fallen in love with someone who was beautiful but rather silly?
Anyone interested in this topic?
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IMHO, I'd say the hopelessly ugly person is less likely to find a partner. (Point of order; yes, of course beauty is in the eye of the beholder and not a quantifiable property to be attributed, analysed and added to a list of statistics. That said, in the eye of this beholder, some people are damn ugly.) Reason being; first impressions, they really do count for a lot, I've often found myself blinded by my initial reaction while reality hammers on my sub-conscious and screams to be recognised.
Yes, and I agree with you completely. There are no scientific instruments to measure beauty and decide, let's say, that a sunrise has more of it than a sonata. Still, we can somehow asses the intensity of our response to beauty, can we? After all, that's what happens when we say that a person is prettier than another - although this is subject to personal inclinations and criteria. So, at the end of the day, wouldn't it be fair to say that beauty is, after all, a quantifiable property?
I don't think so. A kilogram is a kilogram no matter who is weighing it, but beauty is dependant on the observer. The only way you could establish it would be as an average figure (co-efficient??), which would by necessity change all the time.
Oh yeah, forgot to say intelligence is not really an attractive quality in all cases, it's easy to be intelligent and still be a pig-headed, arrogant, cockmaster.
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Couple of months ago, on the seaside, i met an old acquaintance of mine, and she was accompanied by her new boyfriend and husband-to-be. Now, with curly brown hair, green eyes and graceful limbs, I can honestly say she's pretty as a picture, and also very lively and quick-witted, whereas boyfriend, although not deficient in other areas of manly valor, was her exact opposite in terms of physical appearance. And she loves him genuinely, and, as i said, intends to marry him!
I don't understand! Not that he wouldn't deserve it, no, i've nothing against him, i even sort of like him in a way, and i'm glad for his luck, but you know, life's a bitch, things like that don't come about too often.
Anyway, I questioned her as discreetly as i could, careful not to offend her, and she said she was well aware of the way he looked to other people (i.e. not repulsive, but completely uninteresting) but that she 'sees him differently'. She was very open about it, but couldn't, for the life of her, explain this 'see him differently' business. At one time, i think, she mentioned a certain 'aura'. What's that supposed to mean? Did anything like that ever happen to you?
Thank you, and excuse the length.
"Excuse the length"?!?! Innuendo city!! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif">
Let me see now, that situation sounds rather like mine, my Lady is most beautiful, when she walks through a crowded space most male eyes will turn to follow. She's not (thank god!!) your usual blonde-bimbo stereotype, she's small, dark of skin and hair with a tiny little ass and a pair of breasts to make a man weep. Me, well, I know I'm not much to look at, there's no way I'd ever be a male model, fairly all-round average in fact.
Despite this, she loves me and I love her. Why?? Well she doesn't see an "aura" around me, but I try my utmost to treat her with respect. It may not sound like much written down, but she's never had that security before. If you saw us on the street, you'd wonder why she was with me, if you knew us, you'd know why.
oh lord, post a picture pleassse... <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"> and keep her away from meee
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Wouldn't want you drooling over your keyboard. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif">
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god, sometimes i"m such a misoginic pig... <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
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I take the chance...
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Kie xxx
.:*~we're all heterosexual by default~*:.
Mind you if I was pig ugly I might think differently!!
lol.///egotistical pig......can i have your number please *laughs*
huh? who the hell do you ask to get smarter? You cant. I go to a school opposite an all boys school grammer (Its not DAT gd cos im in an all girls school) and quite a few guys there are smart and gorgeous....but there personality *tired sigh*
Devon
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