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me and my bf finally decided to sleep together the other day but it kinda didn't happen quite right and i was wondering if you guys could help?
First the condon wouldn't go on, it just went half way (and yes, we checked it was the right way and everything)
Second, when it came to actually 'doing it', his penis just wouldn't go in very far at all and kept coming out
Is there anything we can we do about it?
It's something unpredictable
But in the end is right
I hope you had the time of your life
First the condon wouldn't go on, it just went half way (and yes, we checked it was the right way and everything)
Second, when it came to actually 'doing it', his penis just wouldn't go in very far at all and kept coming out
Is there anything we can we do about it?
It's something unpredictable
But in the end is right
I hope you had the time of your life
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erm......did u have much foreplay? maybe if u didnt then this could be why his penis would only go in so far, u need 2 be really wet etc. also if it was ur first time together u may both have been a little uptight im sure next time if u just relax and have loads of foreplay things will be much better!
good luck keep us up 2 date! luv jo xxx
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It's something unpredictable
But in the end is right
I hope you had the time of your life
Don't worry, practice makes perfect (well, better anyway lol).
j9
It's something unpredictable
But in the end is right
I hope you had the time of your life
the condom trick is one you need to practice, it can be worse if you're nervous about getting it right.
My suggestion there is to get him to practise putting them on when he's on his own, less pressure.
the thing about insertion, it does kinda depend on the position, as long as you're both comfortable with each other you should be fine.
It could be he'd simply not got it in properly, that may sound funny, but it's possible he'd not actually got in, with you being a virgin your hymen may still be intact?
it really is a case of, practice makes perfect, the first couple of times it may not work, but eventually it will!
we tried again... same result <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif">
he tried the condom thing on his own, worked fine... he doesn't seem to stay fully erect for some reason <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"> and it bends out of the way...
HELP PLEASE! I'M GETTING DESPERATE!
It's something unpredictable
But in the end is right
I hope you had the time of your life
Get checked out for STD's first, and if u are both clear go on the pill. It will solve all of ur condom related worries
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Give it time, make sure you let him know it doesn't matter, you still love him even if you are having these problems right now.
You could always try to build lots of foreplay into it, so you're both quite carried away before you try to actually have full sex, that may help?
Good luck <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
i think mabe you should concentrate on doing sensual things like massage etc and then try again.
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I think we really are a bunch of "randy gets", we forget about what really matters; relaxing and having fun.
Do what Drifter said. And if it turns out to be a load of crap blame her, not me. Likewhise, if my advice turns out to be crap dont blame me, blame erm someone else.
ah well, gives us an excuse to keep trying i guess!
It's something unpredictable
But in the end is right
I hope you had the time of your life
no don't blame me! im a virgin i dont know anything about sex lol. i heard it on richard and judy, so u can blame them <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif">
There's a girl in my mirror
I wonder who she is
Sometimes I think I know her
Sometimes I really wish I did
Hey my boyfriend and i had the same problem to! but im not saying i have the answers as ive only has sex once! but we tried about 6 of 7 times and it it would never work, but all of a sudden it did we did use a different condom i think it was comfort and that seemed to work! also it was 5.30 in the morning and i was so more relax and so was he i think so it seemed to go alrite! but painful 4 me... but i hope it works out for you!
We've tried about 5 times, and it still isn't working right. I think its cos of the positions, its v hard in the normal "boy-on-top" position cos her legs get in the way, its a problem cos i hafta hold "myself" to get it in - cos she's still v tight.
As soon as i take my hand away 2 try and settle down, it pops out. It hurts her a lot so that doesn't make it any easier <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif">
anyways happy shagging!
i dont quite get how her legs are "in the way"... cant she just spread them apart as much as possible to give better access? dont worry about having to guide yourself in, i still do that now because its just more difficult otherwise and it saves the embarrassment of not being able to find the right place to put it in!
as shes a virgin you may need to push quite hard at first to get in, which may hurt her a bit, but if her hymen is still intact hten its unavoidable. however it might not hurt her as much as it hurt me, some people say it didnt hurt them at all when they lost their virginity.
after the first couple of times it does get a lot better and things seem to fall into place better and its not so awkward and you get better at actually what to do! hehe... good luck anyway <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
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